How does one practice “self-love”?

@SW-User it's beyond stupid

@SW-User I had this mind-set when I was in my early 20's. I hadn't experienced life. Now I see the importance of practicing self-love. I didn't even understand the definition at that age! Now I see the significance of taking care of one's mind and body.

@perceptivei [quote]I had this mind-set when I was in my early 20's. I hadn't experienced life.[/quote]

lol, I have experienced life.

[quote]Now I see the importance of practicing self-love. I didn't even understand the definition at that age! Now I see the significance of taking care of one's mind and body.[/quote]

Why is that even something you have to think about and take until now to view as important to you? Isn't it just a given that you take care of your mind and body?

@SW-User This is what I mean...

[quote]Isn't it just a given that you take care of your mind and body?[/quote]

This is what I thought at an early age. I was egotistical and lived in my own bubble. I thought looking good and thinking about myself was the most important thing. Lol. I didn't have a clue about anything outside that bubble. Self-absorption and self-love are two very different things. I was [b]not[/b] caring for my mind.


One day you might look back at your 20's and laugh or sigh at your current mindset. You will have experienced life in a different way once you get closer to 40. Hopefully, you will smile when you look back... I wish I had cared more for my mind and body instead of being so selfish and self-absorbed. Looks aren't everything, you know? Self-love is far more important.

@SW-User I agree it's mostly just a BS fad. There are a few good videos on the flip side of it. And telling others they [i]should[/i] have it can actually be detrimental.

@Magenta I used to think this way. However, i think if i had practiced actually loving myself instead of being so focused on superficial things, my life might be different today. I was extremely self-absorbed but didn't truly care for myself in an important way. I didn't practice self-love. Anyway, to each their own, but if I had a baby sister, I'd tell her to look into it. It won't hurt.

@SW-User some people are emotiinally geared to being 'carers' or 'people pleasers'. They can spend a life helping others, but never themselves.

For some, this 'self love' or rather self care, comes easy, its a natural instinct or they are in a situation where they have time for themselves, or others who help care for them.

But for those that dont have this instinct, it has to be a learnt thing. A deliberate choice to make time for oneself.

Many struggle with the concept of simple things as allowing oneself to sleep in, take time and money for a gym, time out for a hobby.🤷‍♀️

@OogieBoogie [quote]Many struggle with the concept of simple things as allowing oneself to sleep in, take time and money for a gym, time out for a hobby[/quote]

Those are just interests and hobbies lol

@SW-User yep, [i]personal[/i] interests that most people take time out to give themselves to enjoy.
But some perosnality types dont do this , they are conditioned to put others first before themselves.
[i]These [/i] are the people that can burn themselves out, and even compromise their health by overwork, over stress, never taking time to indulge in one little thing for themselves, as they derive their sense of worth from 'service to others'.
Everyone develops differently, nature and nurture stuff.
Some learn a healthy balance.
Some learn to be selfish
Some learn to be selfless.

And it is these 'selfless' types that srruggle with paying attention to their own wants, to the point that they never do.

@OogieBoogie this is typical female silly talk. Pursuing hobbies has nothing to do with being selfish or selfless

@SW-User 🤣
Actually, its psychology.

@SW-User persuing a hobby isnt being selfish, in the exteme sense.
A little selfishness is good.
We should all have a little selfishness.

And thats what im trting to say...its about a healthy balance.

Some people don't have that balance of selfless and selfish.

@OogieBoogie annnnd?

@SW-User ...annnnd so they have to learn it.🤷‍♀️

@OogieBoogie this is such a nonsense subject

@SW-User well, its a thing psychologists deal with and help guide people through. Its related to self worth and self esteem and healthy coping mechanisms.

So make of that what you will.🤷‍♀️

@OogieBoogie most psychologists are clueless, and the idea of "self love" is trash.

@SW-User 😂.
Interesting - denial is also something they deal with 🤣

@OogieBoogie riiight 🥴