Grass seems greener over there

Someone's comment on a recent post of mine made me reflect on my need for others. 'Belonging' is a basic human need. As much as we may try to convince ourselves that we'll be fine on our own island, connection is needed.

How do I deal with this balance when I find most of the people around me reprehensible? Like, I want to hangout with people, but dislike most everyone I know. They aren't bad people really... just annoying in large doses.

Where do I find my people?... or are all of "my people" alone just like me?

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desperatewife · 46-50, F

I was lucky enough to find a true best friend at work. she is my PEOPLE. but it took me until age 46 to meet her.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

Ever since humans evolved into tribal structures, we have ended up fighting to obtain more territory. Unfortunately, those who succeeded ended up dominating the human genome, so with the need to group, comes the need to keep others out, and fear those not like us.

stound

Im not sure there's a proven method. I feel like it used to be easier and better in an online forum, but the world has moved on. I think for me, the best bet would be to find/join a local group interested in thing i find appealing, but suspect i won't invest that much effort

Ynotisay · M

I'm similar and have found that quality over quantity is an easier, and more beneficial, road to travel. It's the difference between one deep connection over 100 surface connections. One feeds the "soul" and the other feeds the ego.

WillaKissing · 56-60

Yes, just like you I am alone on my little timber farm tucked away in the forested hillsides of Jackson County Ohio, USA. Because I can only take others in small doses.

littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

Its hard to find certain type of people.

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