Kind of angry about a messed up thing

A friend of mine was short on her rent she visited me a month ago after work and she was crying saying she going to be homeless this and that and asked to barrow money. I dont like to lend anything but gave in and loaned her 500 for a month well since then she has been ghosting me and not replying to my texts or even coming around. Its not about the money all the way i know her for 5 years so kind of feel betrayed as well i am out the 500 bucks so its like a double stab in the back. I am angry about it.
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Any input guys?

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AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

I'm sorry that happened to you. We live and we learn. I know that you wanted to help because she was crying and on 1 hand you feel bad because you feel like you are sitting on some money while your friend could be sleeping on the sidewalk. So there's guilt . On the other hand you dont want to lend to friends because of things like this happening. We have to learn to say no. And come to the realization that the person is an adult and that we are not responsible for them. Thats why I'm upfront with people, i have my own bills. i will tell them i dont feel comfortable lending money to you but i am here for moral support i can help you pack or even help you find a place that you can afford so that you don't have to go through this every month.