Brother unkind and ungrateful for family support during nephews attempt to take his own life?
Well my family is going through a rough time. I have a nephew who actually has had a lot of behavioural issues. He’s only 14 years old. CPS is involved for this and other reasons.
His parents are divorced, in a nasty power struggle custody battle, and honestly very neglectful of him. On Thanksgiving a couple days ago, he tried to take his own by taking a lot of medication.
During that time they found he’d been using drugs for a year or 2 (so he says and it makes sense because I suspected he was high at my young daughters birthday party 2 years ago wow at age 12).
The bloodwork came back that he had fentenyl in his system etc. My husband and my parents (my Nephews grandparents) have been going up to the hospital to try and support and I’ve spent the past couple of days there watching over my Nephew bringing gifts and trying to rub his head and say sweet things while he was fighting for his life at his bedside.
Very scary he’s very much too young to be going through these very adult situations. They have a very long road ahead with lots of social services intervention and professional help
It’s a really bad situation and I’ve just been trying to be there and support them. Especially my brother and have been worried sick about them. I’ve been neglecting my work and my own children being at their side in the hospital.
Yesterday, when they were trying to wake him up, and de intubate him we had tried to go up and visit and instead of my brother flat out saying our family needs alone time he let me sit there for 4 hours waiting to see my nephew in a waiting room this time and then told me I could come up to the room for 5 minutes and then had the nurse yell at me to leave. It was very confusing and I had a gift to drop off, my brother just says hand me the bag like rudely as if I was intruding and the nurse is like ma’am you can’t be here as if he didn’t just text me and tell me to come up.
They haven’t once said thank you for the time or gifts, support, and defending them. All of a sudden I seem unwelcome which is fine but why be so mean? Just say thanks but we need privacy..
You can ask for privacy without being unkind to the ones you love in my opinion. I’m at a place now where I don’t want anything to do with the situation and I’m hurt and mad at my brother.
I want to have grace for them during this hard time, but honestly in times of crisis during my own health issues and issues with my children, I’ve always been able to clearly just say hey we need private time now is not good thank you for your support. So I’m having trouble finding sympathy there and just overall with the lack of gratitude and coldness they are now showing.
I’m also still very worried about my nephew. Please if you feel it in your heart pray for our family and this young man.
If anyone has any advice or words of wisdom I’d be so grateful. 🙏
His parents are divorced, in a nasty power struggle custody battle, and honestly very neglectful of him. On Thanksgiving a couple days ago, he tried to take his own by taking a lot of medication.
During that time they found he’d been using drugs for a year or 2 (so he says and it makes sense because I suspected he was high at my young daughters birthday party 2 years ago wow at age 12).
The bloodwork came back that he had fentenyl in his system etc. My husband and my parents (my Nephews grandparents) have been going up to the hospital to try and support and I’ve spent the past couple of days there watching over my Nephew bringing gifts and trying to rub his head and say sweet things while he was fighting for his life at his bedside.
Very scary he’s very much too young to be going through these very adult situations. They have a very long road ahead with lots of social services intervention and professional help
It’s a really bad situation and I’ve just been trying to be there and support them. Especially my brother and have been worried sick about them. I’ve been neglecting my work and my own children being at their side in the hospital.
Yesterday, when they were trying to wake him up, and de intubate him we had tried to go up and visit and instead of my brother flat out saying our family needs alone time he let me sit there for 4 hours waiting to see my nephew in a waiting room this time and then told me I could come up to the room for 5 minutes and then had the nurse yell at me to leave. It was very confusing and I had a gift to drop off, my brother just says hand me the bag like rudely as if I was intruding and the nurse is like ma’am you can’t be here as if he didn’t just text me and tell me to come up.
They haven’t once said thank you for the time or gifts, support, and defending them. All of a sudden I seem unwelcome which is fine but why be so mean? Just say thanks but we need privacy..
You can ask for privacy without being unkind to the ones you love in my opinion. I’m at a place now where I don’t want anything to do with the situation and I’m hurt and mad at my brother.
I want to have grace for them during this hard time, but honestly in times of crisis during my own health issues and issues with my children, I’ve always been able to clearly just say hey we need private time now is not good thank you for your support. So I’m having trouble finding sympathy there and just overall with the lack of gratitude and coldness they are now showing.
I’m also still very worried about my nephew. Please if you feel it in your heart pray for our family and this young man.
If anyone has any advice or words of wisdom I’d be so grateful. 🙏
36-40, F
