Going through the hardest time of my life...

Where to begin? I think what I'm going through right is the hardest thing a human can go through which is seeing someone you love terminally ill and not knowing if today will be his last day. There is a lot pain, lots of suffering, lots of anger and constant panic and anxiety attacks. How can someone get through this? It just feels unbearable. If you had gone through this or are going through this, please, write some advise or share some wisdom.

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dancingtongue · 80-89, M

Having gone through it twice in the last 12 years, I understand that feeling of helplessness and the constant introspective questions about "what more could I be doing?" Having to do it at your age, and presumably over someone who is passing far too early in their life, I can understand how it would add a lot of anger. At the later stages of life at least we were spared that; you know it is inevitable. The only advice I can give is the same as someone else did: don't forget that the carer, whether actually a caregiver or just providing emotional support, needs care as well. Find some time to take a break and care for yourself. No, you cannot push it totally out of your mind, but don't feel guilty about taking a break because it is for both of you. To the extent they are aware of what is happening, they are concerned about your well-being and are seeing the toll on you.