Do you think I’m an a*hole for not forgiving a friend for her horrible past?
Warning: Ling rant:
This one girl I looked up too (let’s call her Sarah, I’ve known her since I was a kid. I looked up to her, sort of a voice of reason and always there for us when we are down like we’re there for her but she did some horrible things. Sarah shoplifted because she wanted those beautiful earrings and she had to do community service for a couple weeks. She was 12 or 13.
I was shocked and disappointed and refused to speak to her for a while. Also time she made a bet with her siblings and her frenemy (let’s call her Angie) stayed at her house for a week. They made her live a living hell.
I understand they don’t always get along and I don’t like Angie, but two wrongs don’t make a right. Angie got hurt after slipping off the table and Sarah didn’t even care if she got hurt. She thought she deserved it after the horrible things she did to her and is in the past. Not going to lie, Angie had it coming. Lucky Angie didn’t break a bone.
She was dared to go on the roof for something. Sarah said her parents put her and her brothers in her place for pulling a horrible prank on Angie and was very disappointed in them and they’re usually well behaved. I was disappointed in Sarah and I refused to speak to her. She is usually the one doing the right thing and she did this mess! I looked up to her. We did talk again but then they moved away for a couple years.
My dad and her parents reconnected before he passed away. I still refuse to talk to Sarah after the horrible things she did. She’s 22 now and going to college. I ranted at one of my guy friends about this.
My guy friend said, “Oh you’re going to hold a grudge forever because Sarah is HUMAN? YOU NEED TO STOP HOLDING A GRUDGE!! She screwed up. She made a mistake. EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES!! Even YOU. She is trying to reconnect and you’re being STUBBORN BRUTE! We’ve all done things that were dumb, terrible and disappointed everyone. We all get out of character sometimes. It doesn’t make us bad people, were human. Sarah is HUMAN! She isn’t perfect! Stop being stubborn, let go, be a goddamn grown up and talk to her! Forgive her.”
Damn my guy friend didn’t have to yell! He could have been nicer about it. He is making me feel guilty.
This one girl I looked up too (let’s call her Sarah, I’ve known her since I was a kid. I looked up to her, sort of a voice of reason and always there for us when we are down like we’re there for her but she did some horrible things. Sarah shoplifted because she wanted those beautiful earrings and she had to do community service for a couple weeks. She was 12 or 13.
I was shocked and disappointed and refused to speak to her for a while. Also time she made a bet with her siblings and her frenemy (let’s call her Angie) stayed at her house for a week. They made her live a living hell.
I understand they don’t always get along and I don’t like Angie, but two wrongs don’t make a right. Angie got hurt after slipping off the table and Sarah didn’t even care if she got hurt. She thought she deserved it after the horrible things she did to her and is in the past. Not going to lie, Angie had it coming. Lucky Angie didn’t break a bone.
She was dared to go on the roof for something. Sarah said her parents put her and her brothers in her place for pulling a horrible prank on Angie and was very disappointed in them and they’re usually well behaved. I was disappointed in Sarah and I refused to speak to her. She is usually the one doing the right thing and she did this mess! I looked up to her. We did talk again but then they moved away for a couple years.
My dad and her parents reconnected before he passed away. I still refuse to talk to Sarah after the horrible things she did. She’s 22 now and going to college. I ranted at one of my guy friends about this.
My guy friend said, “Oh you’re going to hold a grudge forever because Sarah is HUMAN? YOU NEED TO STOP HOLDING A GRUDGE!! She screwed up. She made a mistake. EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES!! Even YOU. She is trying to reconnect and you’re being STUBBORN BRUTE! We’ve all done things that were dumb, terrible and disappointed everyone. We all get out of character sometimes. It doesn’t make us bad people, were human. Sarah is HUMAN! She isn’t perfect! Stop being stubborn, let go, be a goddamn grown up and talk to her! Forgive her.”
Damn my guy friend didn’t have to yell! He could have been nicer about it. He is making me feel guilty.
22-25, F
