I disagree with my grandparents about me needing to stay with someone. How can I convince then that I can handle it? PLEASE ANSWER!

So my grandparents were discussing about me and they’re worried about leaving me alone for two weeks and suggests that I stay with a relatives but it’s my choice. Like my aunt. I’m 19 years old! I don’t need to stay with anyone. Don’t get me around I love my family but I don’t need to a babysitter. Somebody has to take care of the house.
I tried to convince them that I’m okay but they said they’re worried that something will happen because I can be naive that let strangers in and being home alone and my behavior so they said it’s better if I stay with someone. No I don’t.I may be autistic but I am not a child. I just got finished with my summer class and I have no job.
They told me that they’re going to New York and Florida. They’re retired. I thought I was going with them but they said it’s only those two. They don’t think I can keep up with the house because I’m don’t help out or clean unless I’m told too that they shouldn’t have to. They don’t know what they’re taking about. None of my friends are speaking to me at the moment so I have no friends.

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Lackwittyname · M

If it is their house there is not much you can say about it. If they are not comfortable, then they are not comfortable. Maybe you could talk to them about a way that you could prove to them that you would be okay, like a test run of some sort.

LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F

@Lackwittyname I tried to talk to them but they WONT LISTEN. They think I cant handle it because I’m autistic and have special needs and won’t keep up with the house. I don’t need to stay with anyone. I’m not 10. They don’t do that with my older half siblings. They don’t have special needs and have families of their own.

Lackwittyname · M

@LaylaTheTallGirl Not sure what to say, it is their house, basically they can decide if you stay there or not. Not saying it is fair or that you cannot handle it, but your choice is to stay at a hotel by yourself, but that will cost money, or stay with someone else if they will not let you stay there alone.

LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F

@Lackwittyname I AM 19 GOING ON 20! If I was 10 then that’s different but I’m an adult! I tried to tell them but they keep saying that for an adult I sure act like a five year old and I get overwhelmed so badly and I don’t always make the best choices. They told me to call up relatives and see if I can stay with them until they come back or my friends. My friends are not speaking to me at the moment and I don’t have friends right now. I’ll be fine.

Lackwittyname · M

@LaylaTheTallGirl I understand you are old enough, but you do not own the house, they do. If you live with them they set the rules.

LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F

@Lackwittyname What am I supposed to do then? My college class doesn’t start until mid August and I don’t have a job.

Lackwittyname · M

@LaylaTheTallGirl Call someone to stay with them, or see if you can stay at another family members house who is out of town. Other than talking to your grandparents to ask them to give you a test period, not much else you can do, especially if they will not listen.

LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F

@Lackwittyname I would talk to my friends but they’re not speaking to me at the moments. We had a fall out and I don’t have any friends right now. My grandparents suggested that I call up my auntie and see if I can stay with her for a couple days then another relative. Auntie LOVES my company and she says I am very special to her. I don’t know if it’s because I’m special needs or autistic. I love her with all my heart but she does old lady things. Boring