Anxious
Only logged in members can reply and interact with the post.
Join SimilarWorlds for FREE »

Need a bit of advice

So my manager pulled me into the office and said ive been given a promotion. Im supervisor if my department now. I was stunned because i didnt see this coming. Im 5 months pregnant and i wanted to advance but wasnt expecting until after i returned from maternity leave.

I get along with the current supervisor really well so i asked whats happening to him, thinking hed transferred or something. She said shes demoting him to my current position. I asked why and she said his performance is horrible.

A lot of people are really upset at this. I pulled him aside and told hom im so sorry and i hope theres no riff between us as this is incredibly uncomfortable for me and i know it is for him aswell. He said he knows i have nothing to so with it and that she demoted him because she threw him under the bus and that i should be very careful with her. He also said if i dont feel ready to take on the position to let her know i dont want it.

The thing is i do want it but not like this. Theres now sides at work. So much drama, i dont know what to say and i feel like i shouldnt say anything. I feel thrown in the middle of a war.

Then my manager goes on vacation/holiday and leaves me in charge with minimum training. I have to ask the deputy manager for support and i know she isnt happy with my manager and how she went about demoting my supervisor. I feel like i dont want to be caught inbetween the drama.

What should i do?
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Above everything make sure the stress doesn’t get to you. You’re pregnant. You don’t need high BP.
DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
@Keepitsimple @Fluffybull the good thing is the management team are all transferring out. Theres a bigger site thats being built and they all want to go there. So when i return from maternity leave i was expecting my supervisor to be line manager and i be supervisor but seems my line manager wanted to knock him down before she leaves.

To be completely honest, they both suck but theyre pointing fingers at eachother and im trying to dodge the drama.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
@DarkSideoftheMoon I hope whatever you decide it’s best for you and your family but most of all that you don’t get stressed out because of that supervisor.
DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
@Keepitsimple thanks. I feel like anything i do can potentially make me look bad to either side. So awkward but ill try not to stress
Gangstress · 41-45, F
Gotta love office politics.
Id be more inclined to say it straight. Yes id like the promotion but perhsps after giving birth? As you dont know if any complications.
But saying that. If you did miss this chance now would it arise again.

Theres such thing as shit workers, nice people. Theres a few of them here at mine.

Either way. You do you. Allow the politics
in10RjFox · M
Well .. it's an opportunity.. so rise up to the occasion and fulfill the needs of the position. If you haven't been a supervisor before then your job is to get work done and deliver and keep track of work in progress. Obviously the role has been given to you since you have experience and know about the department.

Most importantly stop doing work and get work done, which means you should not be doing whatever you have been doing and instead focus on assigning work to people, track who is doing what by making them report their progress and keep track of deliverables.
This comment is hidden. Show Comment
Fluffybull · F
Tell her you don't want the position. If you're not getting proper training and don't do well it will be an excuse for her to treat you in same way. Tbh, I'd keep current position til maternity leave, come back after ML but keep eye out for another job. This could all get messy 😨
SW-User
All you need to do now is just to do your job as best as you can, while taking some advice and pointers from the deputy manager, be friends with her and keep your head low for now, dont boss anyone around .. yet
Pfuzylogic · M
I would keep the current drama on the shelf and charge ahead with the new responsibilities. As long as the demoted manager doesn’t try to throw obstacles in your way; you should be good.
redredred · M
Make an ally out of the demoted individual and see if you can assign him work where he can excel. If you can win him over, his partisans might join him in supporting him.
JohnOinger · 41-45, M
Hello friend
DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
@JohnOinger hey there mr.olinger. have you gathered enough evidence to conclude which celebrity women would rather do?
JohnOinger · 41-45, M
JohnOinger · 41-45, M
@DarkSideoftheMoon So what do you think of Alan Ritchson & Would You Do Him
1490wayb · 56-60, M
this is a no-win situation for all
Quimliqer · 70-79, M
At this point, without handing in your resignation, tighten the cinch and ride it out. The opposition will eventually see why you were chosen for the position and back you, but it will take time.
As far as your supervisor, one can only hope her tenure is short!!
It's better to keep taking steps forward, keep your head high the rest will be okay. It's encouraging yet she does sound ill intentioned. Enjoy while it lasts and continue being your kind self.(:

 
Post Comment