Is being too available a bad thing?

My cousin thinks I’m “too available” for my best friend and my other friends so much that I don’t have time to take care of myself. She told me the text messages and all will wait.
Some of my friends get impatient when I don’t text back right away but I have a life you know. Plus I have a job full time and they don’t.

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maturedragon · 26-30, M

people need to learn that you still have a life, sometimes it's okay to respond instantly other times they can wait, if they become impatient then let them be

PetiteJulie01 · 22-25, F

@maturedragon That’s so true. They need to understand that I work everyday but I’ll get back with them.

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

You're own needs should come first unless it's an emergency...

PetiteJulie01 · 22-25, F

@ozgirl512 yeah you’re right

WhateverWorks · 36-40

I think it’s important to learn how to have boundaries with people and part of that is taking time for yourself, yes. That said, it’s also reasonable to let the people you care about know you’re in the middle of something and will get back to them at ‘abcd time’ then actually follow through with the time you give. This way you’re teaching people that you have boundaries, but also are still reliable and a good friend.

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

Your cousin is right

Ive noticed my daughters respond to text messages from their friends immediately. My sons do not reply immediately unless they are firming up plans

PetiteJulie01 · 22-25, F

@Jenny1234 Yeah you have a point

BlueDiver · 36-40, M

It's got nothing to do with being too available - it's about boundaries, and balancing between being there for others and being there for yourself.

SW-User

Yes it is
You are then taken for granted
They end up not appreciating you

PetiteJulie01 · 22-25, F

@SW-User Thank you. I will never let that happen

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