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Coping mechanisms?

So I'm 19 and a 60-odd year old man thinks it's acceptable to mutter abuse at me when I walk put of my house. He won't do it if my father or brother are there, it's like bullying but what am I meant to do about it? I don't throw mental health around loosely, but it's really getting to me, as I've had nothing to do with him. The reason he dislikes me is because he upset my dad or my dad upset him (a little of both maybe) and because he can't get at my dad he's doing it to me. I've said nothing and done nothing, even his partner is fine with me, but it's bordering on harassment because it's every time I leave my house and this person is there, he starts spouting off. It's getting harder and harder to ignore because of the things being said, until I'm able to leave there's nothing I can do to stop him, I just need to be able to deal with it.
ThePerfectUsername · 70-79, M
He's trying to bully and belittle you and undermine your confidence just because he thinks he can. And you need to prove to him that he can't. And that applies even if he is in some way mentally challenged.

Do as others have suggested and keep you phone handy and if you see him approaching hit record and make sure he knows it's pointing right at him. Tell him once very clearly exactly why you're doing it and that you'll keep on doing it every time you see him until such time as he stops or you decide you need to take that decision out of his hands by reporting his behaviour.

He's 60 and you're a teenager and it's not right for a man of his age to exhibit such worrisome behaviour towards a kid he doesn't even know. And no, it's not fair that a kid should have to play the role of the adult but if you don't things will never get better. Good luck. 👍️
LadyGrace · 70-79
Put a huge sign in your yard, WITH A FINGER pointing to your neighbors house:

HELP!! THIS OLD MAN HAS BEEN VERBALLY HARRASSING ME FOR FOUR YEARS!
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I'd tell him to fuck off
Groofydorkgerdo · 56-60, M
Start taking diapers out with you.
Point at him and laugh you ass off at him and and toss a diaper at him and talk to him like your talking to an infant.
Speak up, tell someone. If you feel unsafe, call the authorities. That’s what I would personally do
randompi · 22-25, F
I did, I was told they can't believe me over him or him over me.
nedkelly · 61-69, M
Confront the grumpy old bastard, and tell him to shut the fuck up. The more you ignore him the stronger the abuse will become
Call the authorities and sue him for harassment. Sounds like a small claims court issue. Make enough legal trouble for them that they stop or have to move. Also get a support network going of people you can depend on.
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
@canusernamebemyusername Are you nuts? Muttering verbal abuse is not a small claims issue. It's not a court issue of any kind at all. Learn to settle your own issues.
TexChik · F
It is harassment. You need to record him doing it. If his attacks are profane...that's against the law as well. Record it a few times then call the police and show them the video. In this day and age you could probably sue him for emotional duress.
It depends on the law where you live. In some places you can get a protection order against him.

If at all possible, record his abuse on a video on your cell phone. Make detailed notes about what he said to you on what day and date.
If he did that to me - I would just stand there recording him not saying a word --he he he
randompi · 22-25, F
I think I'm going to slip a wire under my shirt, a lot of people have suggested that
@randompi " a wire " this aint a 007 film - you can have your phone recording him in a pocket so he cant see it.. BUT believe it or not - there are wiretapping laws that you must follow. I think you have to tell him that he is voice is being recorded. Or something like that.
xixgun · M
Point out the differences in your age and fitness levels and tell him you'd drop him like a bag of sand so stfu.
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
Offer him a smile and a hearty nod of recognition.
I just realized what you actually asked. First, is it 'only' uncomfortable, or does he scare you?
Four years of this? Holy smokes.@randompi
randompi · 22-25, F
That's right, I'm at the end of my tether. 4 years of trying to pretend that it doesn't bother me. I don't know how he does it to be honest. I'll give the bloke credit for his commitment, he should put that in his personal statement if he ever needs a job because I sure as heck couldn't keep up a grudge for that long, I'd get bored with it.
I understand. My attention span is nowhere near that long. That's lousy. @randompi

 
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