Coping mechanisms?

So I'm 19 and a 60-odd year old man thinks it's acceptable to mutter abuse at me when I walk put of my house. He won't do it if my father or brother are there, it's like bullying but what am I meant to do about it? I don't throw mental health around loosely, but it's really getting to me, as I've had nothing to do with him. The reason he dislikes me is because he upset my dad or my dad upset him (a little of both maybe) and because he can't get at my dad he's doing it to me. I've said nothing and done nothing, even his partner is fine with me, but it's bordering on harassment because it's every time I leave my house and this person is there, he starts spouting off. It's getting harder and harder to ignore because of the things being said, until I'm able to leave there's nothing I can do to stop him, I just need to be able to deal with it.

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ThePerfectUsername · 70-79, M

He's trying to bully and belittle you and undermine your confidence just because he thinks he can. And you need to prove to him that he can't. And that applies even if he is in some way mentally challenged.

Do as others have suggested and keep you phone handy and if you see him approaching hit record and make sure he knows it's pointing right at him. Tell him once very clearly exactly why you're doing it and that you'll keep on doing it every time you see him until such time as he stops or you decide you need to take that decision out of his hands by reporting his behaviour.

He's 60 and you're a teenager and it's not right for a man of his age to exhibit such worrisome behaviour towards a kid he doesn't even know. And no, it's not fair that a kid should have to play the role of the adult but if you don't things will never get better. Good luck. 👍️