Any advice? Resources?

I was reminded of the reason that initially got me to SW. I was searching for info on what to do to get my son off drugs. And an SW post came up from someone sharing on a drug issue.
My son’s 19 and doesn’t accept that he needs help. I want him to go to therapy and I have gone to 3 therapists but haven’t found real help for myself or him. I contacted his doctor, no help.
I’ve searched online again and again and can’t find what to do.
Does anyone have any advice?
I was hoping he’ll stop on his own but it’s not happening. Have any of you experienced success in drug issues yourself or relative or friend?
Do you have any advice that would be helpful?
Thank you.

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hlpflwthat · M

[quote]what to do to get my son off drugs[/quote]

You've spoken with 3 therapists & a doctor and you're still using the term 'drugs?'

That alone could have something to do with your son ignoring your position. If you want to truly influence someone's decision(s) it will help you to know your topic well.

Love4All · 56-60, F

@hlpflwthat What should I call them?

hlpflwthat · M

@Love4All Which drug is he abusing?

Love4All · 56-60, F

@hlpflwthatmarijuana and I suspect ecstasy
Are you suggesting I become an expert on drugs? I feel I’ve had enough drug info from all the online searching I’ve done.

hlpflwthat · M

@Love4All I am suggesting listening closely when your son explains his drug use to you, or he can't/won't be honest with you. [i]Especially [/i]if all the online searching you have done leads to a conclusion that he needs 'help' and therapy for smoking pot. You've gotta do a lot of ignoring to come to your conclusion.

A large portion of the population uses marijuana at some point in life. Pretty normal activity for a 19 yo. Recreational use of pot is legal in a bunch of states and all of Canada. As a parent and as a user, I would be far more concerned about alcohol use/abuse.

What are the adverse effects that have you so concerned?

Love4All · 56-60, F

@hlpflwthat I’m not here to debate about the benefits/ dangers of the use of pot.
Thank you.

hlpflwthat · M

@Love4All Of course not. Why explain yourself? That would be adult. All I asked is what is it you see going so terribly wrong with his life.

But here's where I was headed ... unless your son's marijuana use is adversely affecting him, keep your nose out of his business. There's good reason the professionals you contacted haven't helped you.

Love4All · 56-60, F

@hlpflwthat They said he’s over 18 and also, with addiction it’s him who has to decide to stop.
Behavior is affected, thinking too and health. Made decisions that have affected his health.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

@Love4All I practiced medical toxicology, including addiction medicine, for almost 50 years before retiring. there are some very good, free, sources if you live in the US. Depending upon your scientific education there are books, etc., at various levels. I don't have the names at my finger tips, but if you want help from me, PM me a reminder and I will try to dig up some information for yo.