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Should I leave?

My family has accepted the man who sexually assaulted me back as if nothing has happened. I plan to spend a few months to a year away from my family since it's effecting me. I love my family, but I can't pretend like I'm okay with the man who assaulted me still being around. Why did my sister not go through with divorce like she said she was :( Should I leave even if they would be against it?
hartfire Best Comment
Yes.
Having to be near the person who assaulted you makes it harder to recover from the trauma.

Don't worry about your parents' reaction. Many parents are clingy and overly possessive and controlling. That keeps young people trapped in relationships of dependency. The material and emotional dynamics prevent them from growing into adults.

18-21 is an excellent age to move out of the family home and start learning the skills of independence that lead to maturity as an adult.

You will need a job and a room in a rented share house with other responsible singles.
From there you can do night classes to improve your education and career prospects.

ABCDEF7 · M
I can understand when your loved ones don't support your feelings. It's a big emotional hurt than what an outsider did. It's your personal decision that affects your life and your relations. You are the best to judge the circumstances & the related people.

"The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing." - Albert Einstein

All the Best.
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Tminus6453 · M
Leave when you can, no excuse for that
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BitterSweetPotato · 31-35, F
WTF, is it your sister's husband? And she is okay with it?!!!! Yes, get your own space if you can.
AJMClassof18 · 26-30, F
@BitterSweetPotato Yes it's my sister's husband and she knows about it. I would of has him locked up of she has left him.
InvaderNice · 26-30, M
Yes. I’m sorry.

I’m a child abuse survivor and you can PM me any time you want.
@InvaderNice so am I
AJMClassof18 · 26-30, F
@InvaderNice Thank you.
SimpleDave · 26-30, M
It sounds like it would be better if you left. Sounds like it wold help you in the long run to leave.
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AJMClassof18 · 26-30, F
@seeandhear Yeah I know which why I have decided to leave for a while I just know how to tell them especially my parents.
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AJMClassof18 · 26-30, F
@seeandhear Thank you
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
that's just horrible sorry to hear it.
SW-User
Shame on them.... keep going x
And they know and acknowledge that it happened; that he assaulted you? And yet they still accept him back? Leaving would be very understandable.
AJMClassof18 · 26-30, F
@froggtongue Yes they do know about it so does my sister.
💔😢
AJMClassof18 · 26-30, F
@froggtongue Yes it's sad that they can pretend like nothing happened. The only other people who dont like it is my younger cousins. They don't want me to leave but I have to for my well-being.
If they knew about it, disown them. Trust me, if they know yet care so little about u that they'd do something as thoughtless as that, they don't deserve to be considered "family"
Your mental well being is most important. Get away for a while and see what happens.
katielass · F
I'm actually speechless for once. JFC get away from those people. Run and never look back.
Myself11 · 61-69, M
First off i want to say I am sorry you had to go through that and deep down what do you want to do I myself really don't know what I would do all I can say is good luck on your choice and shame on your family for taking him back in
If you don't go, this guy is likely to think you didn't mind it, and he may try again. Keep a can of mace in your purse at all times and watch out for him until you can make your escape. Sorry to hear this, very sad.
Let me ask you this: how do you expect to leave if you are around him??? Just leave if you can!! Otherwise it will continue [u]a[/u]ffecting you.
nakedguyVII · 61-69, M
Your family is your Ground. Get your family to provide you strength to stand up and confront the assaulter. Shame him. He is not a Man.
YMITheWayIM · 46-50, M
We [b]are[/b] fucked up for a reason, I don't know man, I don't know.
Fucking leave as fast as you can while you have a chance
RUN
walabby · 61-69, M
Vote with your feet !

 
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