Who am I to dismiss your hate and bad faith towards men or to ask you to stop expressing it?

You're my friend and I have to approve your feelings anyway.

But at the end of the day, I'm a man too, whether I like it or not. And I don't know for how long I can take this daily reminder to always hate myself more because I was born with a guilty gender.

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BlueVeins · 22-25

To me, the right answer is to just remove myself from it when it gets to be too much. As far as I'm concerned, people have a right to hate men, but as you said, it gets really spiritually taxing after a while. We all must practice self care, and that includes vetting the types of conversation we're willing to listen to and engage with.

Usually not worth it to ask someone to stop, but if you withdraw and they ask why, then I'm 100% on board with just saying you can't deal with it.

Carissimi · 70-79, F

Or won’t tolerate it. @BlueVeins

BlueVeins · 22-25

[@Carissi] They have a right to their feelings, I won't try to deny anyone that.

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

I've dealt with that also, I do the same and I talk to them about it, try and give perspective, but I can't fix past experiences and if it's draining I give myself space or in worst case scenarios just leave them to walk their path if it's toxic.

DarkHeaven ·

Some of my best friends my whole life were good straight cis men that treated me like a sister and made sure that I was never accidentally in compromising situations. Not all men are bad. js

Misanthropic · 26-30, M

Sounds like one of those types of women where if you told her that you are a guy and you aren't how she describes men that would respond with "yeah but you're not really a man"

FernandoXkuroo · 13-15, F

Hope u can love urself more

TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 41-45, MVIP

its just penis envy... 🤓

LordShadowfire · M

You sure you're brand new? You sound familiar.

SW-User

@LordShadowfire I would be impressed if you can identify me. Feel free to DM me your best guess

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BlueVeins · 22-25

@SW-User You don't really have to invoke gender dynamics to explain her behavior; it's possible she just read your post differently than you intended to write it. It's sort of a vague thread, so I can't much fault her. And also, you kinda did accuse her of not being ok with you venting even though she didn't signal that. Maybe she's just trying to contextualize it a little?

I dunno, I guess I see why you're bothered by that reply, it just seems like you're not being charitable with your interpretation.

Carissimi · 70-79, F

Don’t tolerate anyone negating your feelings (as long as they are not based on Woke victimhood, which I don’t believe yours are).

As a woman, I can complain about men until the cows come home, but when someone keeps going on about it, then it becomes too much. @SW-User

HootyTheNightOwl

@DearAmbellina2113 There's venting and taking it too far.

If this person is bashing on men every time they see him, it's understandable that he's going to get frustrated over time.

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