Bf and I had a talk last night about how neither of us really believe in monogamy We came from...

Different species have different reproductive strategies. That's true for even closely related species.

As someone with a degree in biology and an interest in anthropology I hate it when people make these kind of apologies.

Do what you want but don't relate your behavior to other species.

JimboSaturn · 51-55, M

I agree. I believe in social monogamy where two people form a pair bond to raise children but I don't think 100% sexual monogamy is healthy for all people. Brave of you to voice this opinion here.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

Each person, each couple must absolutely do what’s right for them. Guess my only concern is how this arrangement would square with thoughts you’ve expressed about not feeling good/attractive enough for him, wondering why he’s with you and thinking he’d be better off with other women, including his child’s mother. And also if your confidence level is where it was years ago when you were in a poly relationship.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best. 🙂

BloviatingBuffoon · F

I don’t think this can work out for me because i’m too insecure.

But it’s good that you guys understand each other when it comes to this important thing.

Wallflow3r

Me and my hubby were just talking about how we think it’s so weird that some people have open marriages he is highly against it, he does not share haha.. But hey if it’s floats both your guys boat then cool but those kind of relationships don’t usually work out and not good if you have children in the picture.

Quimliqer · 70-79, M

It’s good you can talk about your inner feelings without the fear of reprisals.
Clear the air!!

Dacrowman · 70-79, M

If you both agree and it works for you both 👍

brian29715 · 46-50, M

Good for y’all. That communication is so important.

SizEmUp · 26-30, M

Great conversation to have. Not a choice for everyone and plenty are traditional but for those who can be open about a poly situation, have clear guidelines and transparent communication it can be fulfilling. Good for you DAmbellina on the positives in your life.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

It is always best to be open and honest. The concept of how primates live, really can't be directly applied to humans. There are groups of monkeys with an alpha male and alpha female. The term, in love, is not directly applicable.

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lilacs · 41-45, F

This brings back a few memories of mid 2000s. My ex husband and I discussed this at length.

Northwest · M

If it works for you, that's great. Were you in a "ploy" relationship, or an "open" relationship?

Benjago · 41-45, M

Hope it continues to work out, way to speak up on those wants and needs.

DHggmu · 31-35, M

Just curious because this is a subject that interests me, as he wasn’t open to it before, are you not worried that if you explore with someone else that he’ll change his mind again and it’ll affect your relationship?