Bf and I had a talk last night about how neither of us really believe in monogamy
We came from primates. Most primates are not monogamous. We are capable of being attracted to and in love with more than one person at a time.
When I first met him, I brought up the fact that I was in a poly relationship years ago, and it worked for 6 years til the guy became a total d_ick. He wasn't receptive to the idea back then. But when I brought it up again last night, he actually said he agrees with me, and that if I ever met someone I wanted to explore something with, he would be okay with that. I told him the same!!!
Believe it or not, it has brought us closer and made us WAY more affectionate and se_xual with each other! We both hate the idea of being trapped in monogamy forever just because we love one another and want to build a life together. We can still do that while having our individual relationships with other people outside our relationship. Our only rules- don't bring anyone to our home, NO BABIES, and everyone must be safe and disease free.
I'm so relieved and happy we had that talk!!!!
When I first met him, I brought up the fact that I was in a poly relationship years ago, and it worked for 6 years til the guy became a total d_ick. He wasn't receptive to the idea back then. But when I brought it up again last night, he actually said he agrees with me, and that if I ever met someone I wanted to explore something with, he would be okay with that. I told him the same!!!
Believe it or not, it has brought us closer and made us WAY more affectionate and se_xual with each other! We both hate the idea of being trapped in monogamy forever just because we love one another and want to build a life together. We can still do that while having our individual relationships with other people outside our relationship. Our only rules- don't bring anyone to our home, NO BABIES, and everyone must be safe and disease free.
I'm so relieved and happy we had that talk!!!!
41-45, F
