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So i recently re-connected with an old coworker/love interest (if you have read my old post then you know a little bit about our story)
I sent him a request on fb sometime in october.he only accepted it in january....whenever we exchange messages or if he just reads mine it always takes him a week to make the next "move" usually after midnight and between 3 am.

He is married....am i silly to think that his behaviour reflects he might still feel something towards me?
I mean otherwise accepting a request and replying to messages during the day would not be a big deal.

Before anyone attacks ne: i am not flirting with him,nothing inappropriate is goibg on.

**edited**
BTW lately i've heard people speculating how the marriage is on the rocks and thsy might live apart (different cities)
Also i have to add we had a nasty ending...
When i quit my job he told me "i want all or nothjng" i did not know what he meant so i kinda ignored it
He then heard i was proposed to ..2 weeks later he proposed to her now wife
twistedrope · 26-30, M
May be, may not be. For a guy, these conversations can be very difficult to assess and understand ones own feelings. You might be dealing with a guy who has no idea what he wants but knows it's very difficult to vocalize those feelings of confusion. Relationship confidentiality, percieved infidelity may be more issues. If he just wants a friendship, he may be afraid of garnering suspicion that he wants more or that you might be used as a source of fear for his current wife.

I hope that you can figure out what you want and say what you want without doubt. If you both want the same thing, it'll go well. If not, maybe ask if you want to keep talking to him. These are my thoughts and I could be wrong but I hope you gather a person to keep talking to. Friends seem to be a scarce thing.
Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F
@twistedrope thank you!
JestAJester · 31-35, M
Maybe I misunderstood, correct me if Im wrong but heres something for you to consider. Regardless if his marriage is failing, do you really want a man that is willing to give it up for you? Whos to say is at fault for the failing marriage, it could easily be him and then you would have to deal with that, deal with his lack of effort. And if he is willing to leave his wife for another, whos to say he wont do the same to you when he finds another gal? You may really like this guy, he may be everything you want but you should also know your worth. He may not treat you the way you want.
KA9ha · 31-35, M
he is just looking for a "one night stand" kind of short term rest and night out company.
DONT ENTRUST HIM WITH YOUR BODY to play with and ruin you emotionaly
Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F
@Subsumedpat this should not be a big deal,nothing happened between us and we have not seen eachother since 2018
Subsumedpat · 36-40, M
@Girlbehindthecurtain It is not a big deal he is just seeing it as a possible signal.
Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F
@Subsumedpat so you also think his behaviour is sus?
wudifu · 46-50, M
Rather kwave him .....you might get hurt emotionally......maybe he is just chatting with you just tobhave some fun on the side which alot of guys do
Subsumedpat · 36-40, M
He is keeping you on the line just in case.
Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F
@Subsumedpat but he does not know if i am single or not🤔
Flenflyys · 31-35, F
He’s sort of interested but not too much
kutee · T
id say hes looking for cyber sex,
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
Sure, but what do you really want from this guy? He's married. His wife probably wouldn't be happy that he has contact with you. You can have guy friends minus the drama.
Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F
@uncalled4 treating your partner like a kid,telling them who they can talk to...just because the other person is insecure. I never told any of my bf to cut someone out of their lives
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@Girlbehindthecurtain You're more emotionally mature, enough to know that one cannot legitimately "make" someone do anything. Controlling people suck.
Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F
@uncalled4 agreed
MonaReeves86 · 36-40, F
Whether he knows you’re single or not isn’t the point you know he’s married so just let it go
Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F
@MonaReeves86 i think it matters,so i know how to handle it. i have married guy friends and it's fine
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
sounds like too much drama for me, why bother with him?
Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F
@Hanginginthere just wanred to say hi and catch up

 
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