I wonder how many people are actually unhappy in their marriages

One can only know from one's own experience. In my case I married in an attempt to cope with a broken heart from another relationship. There are things I like about my wife and am grateful for. Also she knew how I felt about the other girl when she said yes. Things are rarely that clear-cut in life. Over the years we've had our excitements!

I think a lot but I think it is because of the breakdown of the family that has been under attack since the formation of the league of nations (precursor to the United Nations).

The original goal was to destroy the Christian values and the family. If you look back in the 40s 50s and 60s you had family units black white Indian that had a loving family husband and wife. This was also mostly before casual sex. Most of these people had only been with their spouse maybe one other.

How often do people now look at their partner and compare them to a previous partner or wish their current partner had some of the qualities of a previous partner. Back in the past there was no comparison because you hadn't been with that many people. I'm speaking generally not about you or any specific person. I know I've slept with multiple ladies over my lifetime but originally I wanted to marry my first girlfriend. I had never thought about cheating or being with anyone other than her and had I married her that's the way I probably would have lived my life. How often do friends especially friends of women downput their husband by saying oh you could do so much better oh he's just wrong for that you need to leave him. Misery breeds misery.

One thing I've noticed is when a man is out with his buddies and he complains about his wife or girlfriend his buddies put him back in line and remind him of all of the positive things she does for him it is not like that from my experience when women go out and she complains about her man all her friends do is encourage her to leave him. This is an ideology that was instilled into women through the feminist revolution.

That helps me feel better. I have been in a few relationships that started off well, and were really strong until one day they weren't. I never got to the "Roommate" part. The three relationships I am referring to all were very passionate from beginning to end.

One in particular we were both deeply in love. This story gives me hope that maybe the relationships ended before they became "Roommate" type relationships that we both would've felt trapped in.

It happened to me a long time ago it wasn't her fault that she became quadriplegic and suffering from dementia, but it happened . It's a shame that healthy people can't communicate to spice up their relationship.... But what can i say...

I think relationships go thru phases. And I think it’s easy to slip into routines. Like anything they require work and I think a lot of people learn that the hard way.

Married or not it's the same. I know I stuffed my first relationship by taking it for granted and baulking at the idea of getting married for years. My second ex stuffed the next one but my fault was I overlooked many of the narcissistic princess-mode danger signs she exhibited because I was blind to them trying to make it work before it went into full blown dv and abuse directed at me and our then newborn baby girl. Never been married and don't ever want to be. Marriage is super ultra toxic in.my view. It's never truly mutual and nearly always all about the woman while the man is considered as just a piece of shit meat to be trashed and discarded if he doesn't simp 24/7/365 and dance to the right tune.

Till death do us part is too darned long now. In the old days people probably got married early but the first wife probably died in childbirth. Then the man died at around 40. A marriage probably only lasted 25 years max. My gf of 28 years doesn't live with me, doesn't want to get married, won't sleep with me, and is quite picky about what I cook. Seems like we're just friends but i know she would be devestated if I started seeing someone else but what's a person to do?

Many become tired of each other and unhappy in marriage. It takes a lot of coordination and compromise, but you each need space and room to be yourself too.

It's probably common, especially in relationships where couples marry and stop "dating" each other.

Even marriages need that thrill of making the effort to look good for each other and meet at that perfect date spot every now and then.

Well, we're not roomates but it's my fault! I am a lusty man who spends days thinking of other women. Fooling around with other women (without penetration but bj n 69) would be nice. I have yet to experience those positions. I have joined the likes of AshleyMadison sites but nothing, only cause of the implications: i know I will ruin my life for a few hours of entertainment.

Our 20th anniversary is in a few weeks. We've been roommates for a long time.

Not us! We love doing things together and we still sit on the couch and hold hands!

Something happens during a marriage as one or both partners get tired and bored with each other the spice or spark of the relationship grows cold with routine life and sometimes each start to explore alternatives ... Has that happened to you??

By the time mine ended, we had been unhappy for a while. I won't do marriage again.

We still love each other but after she went through the menopause she lost all interest in sex. Now we share a bed and thats all

I'll tell you this a thousand times: The person you live with and takes care of you will never be as exciting as the person who flits in and out of your life who is mysterious.

I'm in that boat too

Too many I fear..

I know way more that seem unhappy than seem happy.

Alot of.people apparently I'm one also

Well I would guess pretty much everyone who comes on here !

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im glad im not married

You have a room mate too?

Probably more than you think. Seems increasingly more common

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