I wonder how many people are actually unhappy in their marriages

Something happened today that really has me wondering. My daughter went to stay the night with a friend last night and she came home telling me that she asked her friend’s mom how she met her husband and she told her the story and my daughter told her it was a cute story and the woman said “we don’t really like it.. we are more of just room mates now.” And honestly I would never have guessed that about them had my daughter not given me that information. And of course I basically feel the same way about my own marriage. So how many married couples do we know that seem happy but really at home they are just room mates?

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Sazzio · 36-40, M

To any problems first we need to try a solution. Why are we unhappy? Can we change our spouse? What are the small steps in changing them? Talking to them "How was your day?" When both are on their phone / not really busy just going up to them, sit beside them and rest your head on their arm? (Which I do to my wife n vice versa) they will smile and start interacting, even if it for a few minutes. Those few mins are to be cherished, let the love blossom n grow. If the spouse is thinking negative can we embrace them and say "It's not bad as u think?"

These are small steps probably even first 2-3 yrs of relationship. Other beta ways will be to play board games with them and along with your children and all going to the park atleast once a month.