PhoenixPhail · M
PhoenixPhail · M
@Soossie 🤗🤗
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riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
@sarabee1995 absolutely. I ended up going straight in with most of my relationships very fast and now I’m single 14 years cause relationships frighten me now over a bad break up I had .
I’d even give it a year or 2 with just friendships and then a relationship.
I dived in to fast and some of the women I was with were beautiful looking and ended up on my own cause I think there too painful .
There ok when your in it , but the pain comes right away after the break up .
You wouldn’t know how far in or your involved you be until the pain comes from a break up .
Your absolutely right
I’d even give it a year or 2 with just friendships and then a relationship.
I dived in to fast and some of the women I was with were beautiful looking and ended up on my own cause I think there too painful .
There ok when your in it , but the pain comes right away after the break up .
You wouldn’t know how far in or your involved you be until the pain comes from a break up .
Your absolutely right
JustNik · 51-55, F
My first thought was my oldest girl and her fella. Any unpleasant thought or feeling, big or small, gets brought up, acknowledged, and discussed and they somehow manage to do this sensibly. They are each self-aware and honest about their own flaws and issues and the roles those play in any difficulties, and I think a foundation like that can withstand a great deal. Even the effort to achieve that kind of communication could carry a pair far I think as it seems to me the desire might be more important than a perfect execution.
DrWatson · 70-79, M
I hope we are not talking about burying the ex in cement while constructing the basement? 😂
OK, silly joke.
I was about to delete it, when I realized that if you read it metaphorically, there might be some wisdom there. Part of building a solid foundation with someone new is to truly "put to death" trauma from past unhealthy relationships.
Man! I just can't keep myself from being profound! 😌
OK, silly joke.
I was about to delete it, when I realized that if you read it metaphorically, there might be some wisdom there. Part of building a solid foundation with someone new is to truly "put to death" trauma from past unhealthy relationships.
Man! I just can't keep myself from being profound! 😌
PhilDeep · 51-55, M
I think people need to get past their childhood traumas and have some psychological stability before considering being in a relationship. Without that, foundation is rocky and it's just going to carry through to next generation as well if children result from the partnership. I'm glad I don't have children and I have enough honesty with myself to know not to attempt commitment. As far as recovery goes, I am likely to die trying.
@PhilDeep
You sound like a perfectionist here … with all the respect, perfection is the last thing a lasting relationship needs ..
Relationships need discover of each other’s imperfections, respecting them while working together towards changing them to a strength for both …
I think …
You sound like a perfectionist here … with all the respect, perfection is the last thing a lasting relationship needs ..
Relationships need discover of each other’s imperfections, respecting them while working together towards changing them to a strength for both …
I think …
PhilDeep · 51-55, M
@Soossie It might sound like it from my posts on here. I'm concluding based on close to thirty years of trying despite my own imperfections and those of others and compassion despite them. There came a time for me when I decided enough is enough. At least when I make some progress with my own self-growth I can acknowledge and appreciate it alone, without it being shot down by others because of their own problems. Maybe I've just been unlucky, in which case I am glad for those who have not.
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@Soossie True but not always. Sometimes we need to forgive our partner for small things because we’re humans and we prone to make mistakes. I’m not saying big mistakes like getting someone else pregnant..but when they forget your birthday or anniversary. Or when they say something they don’t mean it etc.
CookieCrumbs · F
Imma amend my list. The more I think about this, I agree with @CookieCrumbs that love is the goal to reach.
So it’s communication, trust, acceptance, and love. Open communication will lead to trust. Communication and trust will lead to acceptance. And finally, all of it will lead to love. Love IS all of it. 🖤
So it’s communication, trust, acceptance, and love. Open communication will lead to trust. Communication and trust will lead to acceptance. And finally, all of it will lead to love. Love IS all of it. 🖤
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
In my case, we both wanted to put more into the relation, than take out. A little like Kennedy and his ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country. We both got extended educations, changed professions, cared for aging parents, raised and educated kids and supported then until they could take the training wheels off.. Maybe thats just us..😷
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mindstruggle · 31-35, F
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With a real friendship. Slowly and organically. But always with that knowing you can trust this person will build a place for you in their heart they won't abandon. Deliberate effort without needing praise. Being strong but also believing they care when you feel weak. Go through some ups and downs. Share and listen. Communicate verbally and intimately.
Touch her boobies every day lol
Touch her boobies every day lol
