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What is your opinion on sexting?

I've been watching a series about problems with sex education and how to improve it. One episode was about sexting. One side wanted to teach students to never take any photos you don't want to become public because leaking is common. The other side wanted to teach recipients to keep intimate photos between them and the sender, and that it could then be a fun and exciting addition to a relationship.

I'm ideally for the latter, combined with prosecuting the perpetrator and supporting the victim if a photo gets out anyway. But society isn't currently like that. People who share someone else's photo get more praise than heat, and people in those photos get more blame and shame than support. As long as that's the reality, I tend to agree people shouldn't take any nudes, but that it should become possible with very low risk.

The first form of education prolongs victim blaming, but the second form isn't safe until everybody attended those classes and most people alive will not do so anymore. So I'm not sure what's best.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
That what you're describe is "picturing" 🤭 until now I understood sexting as sending texts. 😆
But seriously, it's a risky behaviour to send your personal photos to someone else so I wouldn't encourage it. You can take a legal action but once it's online and spread to many people, it's impossible to control it in any way anymore. If you must, show something you can't be identified by.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@Elessar Damn... 😅
Elessar · 26-30, M
@NerdyPotato I know.. but a similar attitude can be [i]learned[/i], to some degree. Or at least posturing in a way that it looks like you embrace that attitude. Although yeah.
Elessar · 26-30, M
@CrazyMusicLover I swear if a nude of the Berlusca was ever leaked he would've probably used it in his campaign, and it's not even a stretch 😆
caPnAhab · 26-30, M
Sounds like you're referring to sending nudes? That's not a thing that I would do.

Religious reasons aside, a practical reason is I'd hate to give anyone ammunition for blackmail against me. I'm sure we all know once a picture goes online, it can't ever be scrubbed off.

However, whatever two consenting adults do between themselves and are not hurting anyone... is none of my business and I don't care.
Ducky · 31-35, F
I’ve engaged in it before, but no nude photos are shared, that’s the rule. Except for one time, but they were an exception because reasons. But why I generally do make that a rule is because of this very reason: because they can just circulate your nude photos around the internet. I never take nude pics anyway, but even if I did, there’s nothing stopping the person you’re talking to from downloading your pic and then sharing it however they like. And you know me, I’ve been betrayed plenty of times. I’m certain if I had shared nudes with those I’ve sexted with, I’d be finding my pics on OnlyFans with someone claiming to be me, or at least with my body.
@Ducky I think that's the rule for almost everyone sending them, but much less among those receiving them. That absolutely needs to be addressed much more.
It's already illegal for me to share or threaten to share any nudes that are sent to me - whether I want to receive them or not...

https://www.police.uk/ro/report/rsa/alpha-v1/advice/rape-sexual-assault-and-other-sexual-offences/revenge-porn-intimate-image-abuse/#:~:text=It%20is%20illegal%20to%20share,by%20text%20or%20e%2Dmail
@NerdyPotato Having read your post again - and the fact that it's stated that the people involved are "students", I wonder if there might be some common sense to encouraging them to not take naked pictures of themselves in the first place???

Possession of child pornography is a major issue in many countries - and the fact that it's your own underage body doesn't absolve you from potentially getting prosecuted and forced to sign the sex offenders register for the rest of your life.

Another thing that concerns me about the revenge porn law is:- How do you know where the source of the leak was??? Unless it's one unique picture that you shared with one person and you know there's no other place it could've come from, it's going to be a lot harder to prove that it came from this person if you shared it with fifty others without watermarking it - which happens on SW.
@HootyTheNightOwl oh, they wouldn't encourage students to take photos while they were minors. The lessons were given to 12 to 18-year-olds, but in preparation to enjoy sex their entire life, not to try everything right away. Sharing photos before you reach adulthood wouldn't only put the recipient in trouble, but yourself too. It doesn't matter if it's your own body and you took it yourself: it still counts as possession of child porn.

But you do have a good point about the effectiveness of the revenge porn law. The burden of proof is going to be tricky, so not a whole lot of perpetrators may actually get sentenced over it.
@NerdyPotato Yes... and it's important that children are taught this and understand it because if they're found to be in possession of child porn, then they throw away their whole life just for the sake of a few pictures. It's not really worth them giving up potential career choices in the future if they're convicted - and I know that children are tried and convicted of child porn crimes... even though they were the "victim".

Awareness of the law as it currently stands is a good thing, though, because it gives adults who are sharing nudes the chance to consider how they might respond to providing proof that their pictures were leaked from the source that they say they were leaked from and not any other potential sources. That could potentially increase the number of overall convictions the courts are able to award.
Captainjackass · 31-35, M
You watch some weird stuff 🤨.
@Captainjackass it's rather sad that sex education focusing on how to enjoy sex rather than limiting it to the organs involved and contraceptives is considered weird...
Elessar · 26-30, M
Just omit the face or other potentially uniquely identifying details.

Good luck to anyone willingly to show a random dìck picture around, claiming it's mine, without getting all the weird looks pointed at themselves.
@Elessar that's a good middle ground for the moment, but it also makes it less meaningful for the intended recipient. And it won't change the views of society on nudes either, which is urgently needed regardless. With the rise of AI, people's nudes with face and tattoos can even be leaked when they never took any. We have to move to a common mindset where that doesn't reflect poorly on the subject, whether real or fake.
Elessar · 26-30, M
@NerdyPotato The raise of AI is at the same time a scourge and a miracle. If a legit photo of yours leak, you can claim that it was faceswapped or generated with AI, send the whole thing to one of those TV programs for boomers looking at the first excuse to blame technology for everything, and let literal mediatic hell unfold upon them.
I don’t think there will ever come a time when it’s safe or smart to send nudes without omitting the face (or any other identifying features.) Relationships change, people change and once the photos are out there, there’s no unringing that bell.
darknessprevails · 26-30, M
It's childish.. aside from general teasing. Just get the real thing.
@darknessprevails ah, you're one of those people who wants teenagers to be unprepared and learn from porn. 🙄
darknessprevails · 26-30, M
@NerdyPotato read it again simpleton. Not against sex education. My position is that it's been weaponized against society.
@darknessprevails ah, sorry. Yes, that's a good point. It's historically been used to scare children into abstinence and though it's become a little more neutral, the pleasurable side of it is still hardly acknowledged, let alone explained in schools.
SW-User
Hard pass. It's like eating a picture of food.
HumanEarth · 56-60, F
I'm down for Morse Code sexing over HF radio waves
Nobody should ever send nudes of themselves unless they absolutely trust the other person. End of story.

The problem is, so many people are adept at manipulating people into trusting them. I don't necessarily think it's victim blaming to teach young people never, ever to trust a stranger with their nudes, but we absolutely need to be more proactive about prosecuting people who publicize them.
@LordShadowfire teaching people to not participate isn't victim blaming indeed, but it creates an environment for victim blaming. If someone ignores the advice and a photo leaks, it gives people an excuse to say "I told you so". And it's also an excuse not to teach recipients to keep it private, because if we teach everyone not to send them in the first place, nobody is going to receive any and there's no need to learn how to deal with that.
@NerdyPotato That's very true. We need to teach people not to allow themselves to be put in a position to be victimized, but we also need to teach people not to victimize.
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
ive done it, had some good and bad times with it, when it comes to trading nudes its fine as long as your face isnt shown
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