What is your opinion on sexting?

I've been watching a series about problems with sex education and how to improve it. One episode was about sexting. One side wanted to teach students to never take any photos you don't want to become public because leaking is common. The other side wanted to teach recipients to keep intimate photos between them and the sender, and that it could then be a fun and exciting addition to a relationship.

I'm ideally for the latter, combined with prosecuting the perpetrator and supporting the victim if a photo gets out anyway. But society isn't currently like that. People who share someone else's photo get more praise than heat, and people in those photos get more blame and shame than support. As long as that's the reality, I tend to agree people shouldn't take any nudes, but that it should become possible with very low risk.

The first form of education prolongs victim blaming, but the second form isn't safe until everybody attended those classes and most people alive will not do so anymore. So I'm not sure what's best.

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

That what you're describe is "picturing" 🤭 until now I understood sexting as sending texts. 😆
But seriously, it's a risky behaviour to send your personal photos to someone else so I wouldn't encourage it. You can take a legal action but once it's online and spread to many people, it's impossible to control it in any way anymore. If you must, show something you can't be identified by.

NerdyPotato · M

@CrazyMusicLover describing is also a popular form indeed, but I think sharing photos is called the same. I don't think it should be risky, but I agree that it is in current society.

Elessar · 26-30, M

@CrazyMusicLover They can technically AI-generate one or do a faceswap, similarly you can claim a legit one was AI-generated or faceswapped. Basically we're pretty much always in plausible deniability area, except maybe in the case of a video showing face and where one also speaks with their own voice (technically you can still claim it was all AI generated but the general population may not find it as credible, because the combination of all three isn't common, although still within the realm of the "technologically possible").

The winning trick seems to be not giving a f*ck, at least officially. A few years ago there was some celebrity guy here (or like some participant of one of those dumb reality shows like the Big Brother, I don't remember) that got ransomed with the possibility of a nude of him getting published, and he went [b]publicly[/b] with something like "go on, if you're so obsessed with my d*ck I can take you better pics from better angles for you to publish" and it absolutely died there, the paparazzo must've certainly died inside. Compare that to those who instead go nuclear when something like that happens, try to take down every copy of the photo with cease & desist letters, and only get Streisand effect in return.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@Elessar True. Unless you work as a teacher or some conservative politician. 😆

Elessar · 26-30, M

@CrazyMusicLover [quote]some conservative politician[/quote]

NerdyPotato · M

@Elessar that attitude certainly helps, but if the rest of society doesn't share that view, it may still have consequences. And not everyone has the confidence to do that...

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@Elessar Damn... 😅

Elessar · 26-30, M

@NerdyPotato I know.. but a similar attitude can be [i]learned[/i], to some degree. Or at least posturing in a way that it looks like you embrace that attitude. Although yeah.

Elessar · 26-30, M

@CrazyMusicLover I swear if a nude of the Berlusca was ever leaked he would've probably used it in his campaign, and it's not even a stretch 😆