I was married for 25 years.

@nowic2 Bless you. Im very sorry to hear about your wife. My wife passed September 7th 2016 so nearly the same time as your dear wife. Thank you for your kind words. I do keep strong and like yourself time has eased pain. Beautiful memories live on hence why i stopped to photograph our very first marital home. I still feel pain for our son. I have a daughter too from a previous short term relationship when in my teens. Our son and our then only grandson whos now 19 were the ones i had to protect so i sought EMDR so as to keep strong and desensitise myself eventually. I hope you yourself are doing well sir and i truly wish you the very best in life.

@Perry1968 thank you for your support and encouragement. Our losses were quite close My wife passed 29 July 2016. Sometimes it feels like yesterday, fortunately decreasingly so.
I also lost my younger son in 2022. Sometimes the grief from both combines.
I still it strongly when I see or hear an ambulance with flashing light and siren blaring. I had to perform CPR on my son until the ambulance arrived. Hearing it coming was such a relief. Sadly he did make it.
All that aside, life goes on and as I see it. It’s entirely up to me to make the best of it and be the best I can. I take as many positives as I can from having both in my life. Fortunately the memories are forever.

All the best. I hope you have a lot of happiness ahead of you.

@nowic2 Omg. Mate i cannot express how i feel reading that. 😢 Im really so so sorry. Its all clearly given you post trauma hence fearing the sounds of emergency vehicles. I dont even know you but would give you a hug mate right now as i felt a lump in my throat. I had a grandson pass in 2019 and...well theres no real words to describe that kind of pain. But look please let me just say that you must be a strong person. Youve been through alot of pain. If it ever helps you id happily have a chat. I dont say this to anyone i dont know but id give you my personal phone number if you ever felt the need. Massive hugs to you. Stay as strong as you can. I walk off or cycle my pains away even if its temporary. Everyone needs a coping strategy under such dire and very sad circumstances. Keep pushing forward please and remember that our loved ones wouldnt want us to fall to pieces. We crumble but we have to dig very deep and get back up. Sincere love from one husband and father to another.

@Gangstress 😆 That almost made me cry. That is a beautiful comment. 💙 Im so sooo glad you too have found peace in your heart and mind. Wow that comments taken me a back i must say. What a beautiful thing to say to me. Thank you. Im humbled truly. Id LOVE to meet you some day as i truly feel a connection towards you and likwise you have a beautiful soul my very dear friend. Stay on the path of positivity. Id love to catch up for a chat one day. You are both a laugh and extremely unique. I have to take a friend to the doctors now bless him so i must go but its made my day hearing from you. Massive love and hugs to you both. X

@Perry1968 100% we are connected M. Ya know were kindred spirits x

Glad i made you feel good about yourself mateeyyyy xx its deserved and needed.
I imagine youre having a tough few day.
Something compelled me to log on. Must have been you so id see this ❤ and glad i did.

Sweet again to hear your taking your mate to the docs xx legend M

Take care and ill check in over the weekend xx

@Gangstress Please do so. Im so glad you logged in. Thank you for such kind words again. I.ll gladly give you both my phone number if you want to say a personal hi. You can 141 and ring me. I know you trust me. We are definitely kindred spirits. Big hugs to you. xx

@AngelUnforgiven Thank you. Thats very kind. I used to think on those terms but its a strange reality that for whstever reason seems to pull you through. I used to think that way about my parents too. They past when i was young. My brother and a beautiful grandson. All gone but never forgotten. We have 5 grandchildren now. My wife only met 1. Enjoy life day by day as one day we all have to go. Stay strong. Have a love filled heart and i hope you and your husband last for many many years together.

@TexChik 🙂 Thank you. It was initially unbearable and i didnt know how id pull through but here iam 9 years later and for me EMDR therapy and the love i have for my children forced me into this calmer more peaceful mindset. We all crumble from time to time but as i always say. Mentioning those who have gone from our lives keeps the memories we have for them along with their spirits strong. It almost feels like they are still here. Which is a comforting thought.

@Banksy83 so sad to actually hear that from him

@Banksy83 Thank you my friend. Thats lovely. She has and always will have a very special place in my heart mind body and soul.

@Emilia8577 Thank you. Very kind words. I will always love her. Always. Our beautiful son now 31 looks just like his beautiful mum. Thats lovely as when we speak its like looking into her eyes. They legacy left behind by her. His beautiful brown eyes and his kind heart just like his mum. Before she passed her biggest fear was leaving our son behind. I promised id look after him no matter what and try my best to do so. I probably get on his nerves sometimes 😆 Love runs very deep. Here is my beautiful wife. 25 years of marriage. 30 years together. Totally irreplaceable 🙂

@Perry1968 aww she looks lovely ☺

@Lostlostlost I dont know you. But if it ever helps then please inbox me. Some of the deepest convos ive had have been with strangers. A couple become friends. Please dont feel alone.

@helenS Honestly. I promise you this is more of a tribute to her rather than being stuck in the past. I love to mention her from time to time as it keeps memories of her alive. Never to be forgotten.

@Perry1968 I'm so pleased to receive that answer! 🌷

@Amyrakunejo 🙂 Thank you. Thats very kind.

@Ferise1 It does hurt. But we have to dig deep and thrive off of positive memories. It shows you have a very kind heart which speaks volumes about you as a person. Please stay strong in life.