I was married for 25 years.

@nowic2 Bless you. Im very sorry to hear about your wife. My wife passed September 7th 2016 so nearly the same time as your dear wife. Thank you for your kind words. I do keep strong and like yourself time has eased pain. Beautiful memories live on hence why i stopped to photograph our very first marital home. I still feel pain for our son. I have a daughter too from a previous short term relationship when in my teens. Our son and our then only grandson whos now 19 were the ones i had to protect so i sought EMDR so as to keep strong and desensitise myself eventually. I hope you yourself are doing well sir and i truly wish you the very best in life.

@Perry1968 thank you for your support and encouragement. Our losses were quite close My wife passed 29 July 2016. Sometimes it feels like yesterday, fortunately decreasingly so.
I also lost my younger son in 2022. Sometimes the grief from both combines.
I still it strongly when I see or hear an ambulance with flashing light and siren blaring. I had to perform CPR on my son until the ambulance arrived. Hearing it coming was such a relief. Sadly he did make it.
All that aside, life goes on and as I see it. It’s entirely up to me to make the best of it and be the best I can. I take as many positives as I can from having both in my life. Fortunately the memories are forever.

All the best. I hope you have a lot of happiness ahead of you.

@nowic2 Omg. Mate i cannot express how i feel reading that. 😢 Im really so so sorry. Its all clearly given you post trauma hence fearing the sounds of emergency vehicles. I dont even know you but would give you a hug mate right now as i felt a lump in my throat. I had a grandson pass in 2019 and...well theres no real words to describe that kind of pain. But look please let me just say that you must be a strong person. Youve been through alot of pain. If it ever helps you id happily have a chat. I dont say this to anyone i dont know but id give you my personal phone number if you ever felt the need. Massive hugs to you. Stay as strong as you can. I walk off or cycle my pains away even if its temporary. Everyone needs a coping strategy under such dire and very sad circumstances. Keep pushing forward please and remember that our loved ones wouldnt want us to fall to pieces. We crumble but we have to dig very deep and get back up. Sincere love from one husband and father to another.