I thank those of you who are just being supportive and empathetic. I'm not looking for advice. I am just venting on a day where I am feeling sad. I'm usually a very optimistic, smiling all the time, type of person. So, this is rare for me..

You all also don't know our history, what I've done to try to save the marriage or the communication that has already been put into it. Please do not assume I've been sitting idly by waiting and waiting for something to happen. That is not me, nor will it ever be. He knows how I feel about everything. I am always open and honest with him - even if it's not ideal or something he wants to hear. It's not reciprocated though, and that's been an issue. There are a lot of reasons and history behind it where I do not feel comfortable going into the depths of my marriage on a public forum LOL

But THANK YOU for the support. I really needed it right now! Love to all of you!

It is said that a perfect marriage is two imperfect people who refuse to give up, there is a lot of truth to that. Complacency generally creeps in but expectation is the number one cause of the death of a relationship. I have been married 44 years and many said it wouldn't last, I am just waiting to see. A couple will never be just a rubber stamp of each other even though you will naturally grow to be more similar you are still 2 unique individuals. You won't feel the same emotions at the same times but he should have acknowledged the anniversary. Men unfortunately are pretty blunt, we don't take hints well or subtleties. I hope he is able to express some emotions and tells you what is inside his heart. Happy anniversary.

This is so very sad 😢
The stresses of everyday life can have a devastating effect on romance. Find a time when he isn't feeling so stressed and tell him in detail what you need both physically and emotionally from him. It is worth a try

I'm so sorry to hear that dear, maybe it's time to find someone who will care more

How do people forget their anniversary? I've never done that in 31 years

I completely understand. I have been married 10 years.

U need to make a call ...find someone who will treat U like a Lady.....

The anniversary is only as special as the marriage.. Don't expect your anniversary to be nice if your relations are strained.. It's "your" or you really should be saying "our" (yours and his) anniversary.. Be nice to him.. Act nice to him.. Don't expect him to be nice and act like everything is ok when it's not.. Don't play a victim.. It works both way..

Issues are a part of life. We have issues in all domains of life and marriage isn't an exception. The same issues which you are facing are there for him too. I suggest don't waste this day sharing the problems with us but go to him and make something out of nothing.
Remember we get married not for ourselves but for the other person. Good luck

I'm so sorry. Happy Anniversary anyway.

Thank you, everyone! ((hugs))

ps: happy anniversary !

Don't ever loose hope.

I can relate. I was married for 30 years. The last 8 years or so we drifted apart. She started with new friends Thura new job. Did not include me with the new group. Not much in the way of intemacy. Anyway to shorten up the story, we finally divorced. After the divorce, learned that she had a lover. We have been divorced about 3 years now. DAMN I am happy !!! I realize now we are both better off. I think quite a few couples are together because there used to being together. Best I can tell you, Get Out of Dodge. You will find someone that will give you the affection your lacking and deserve.

Men are just so different, we want them to act like we would and that ain't happening. I can see you need a little bit more tlc/and to know, it all is still worth the effort. Hugs.

Tenderheart you don't have to expain yourself I myself understand if you ever want to vent feel free to private message me good luck my dear

Sound like you two need a vacation. try to get back the spark you two once had. Or start looking for some comfort

Awe sweetie. A lot of ppl in ur shoes.. it isnt easy.. but some how manage to get thru it... be strong

Kinda there too. Seems pretty one sided. Hopefully they see the light before it's too late.

I've been there before . It's not fun and when there was no more love , I moved on with my life .

so sorry I know its not easy but lift your chin up and try to have a good day

I treat my wife like a queen, because she's the queen of my life.

OH my. I would whisk you away to the bedroom and........

So sorry to hear this .... Hope your day gets brighter ...

Hugs. You don't deserve this. And it isn't you.

Hard to do but talk to him and say, Hey I know you had trouble at work, your angry, tired, even all around Asshole. So why don'-t we celebrate our anniversary tomorrow or this weekend, when we will not be working. But you also should receive the same reaction from your husband when you had the bad day.

I've been there not nice at all

I'm so sorry..

:-(

Sounds like he is still pissed about work. He could also be cognizant of the problems with you. Putting those two together might be too much...right now. He could be shutting down in order to avoid taking things out on you. Just my opinion, we men love you to death, but we also feel the pressure of having to herald birthdays, anniversaries, etc. You did nothing wrong from what you say.....but....your expectations that showing him your wedding picture was just going to make everything go away was not realistic. Personally, that might have made me do the same thing, yet I feel neither of you are wrong. He did acknowledge the day. Sounds like you both should sit down with a professional. No way does it sound unworkable!

It's sad, you 2 seem very young still, maybe therapy could help.

Happy Anniversary hope things get better for you

I a so sorry.

I know things are not cut-and-dry simple. I have been where you are(cold, indifferent spouse), so I get it. I have walked on eggshells and gotten my ass kicked for it. It's a process. Best of luck to you!