I Am Married But Lonely

Today is my anniversary. We've been having some issues lately anyway, but I've been trying to get him to work it out. Anyway, I come downstairs, post a picture of us at our wedding and a nice sentiment on Facebook and go to say Happy Anniversary to him. He's all pissed off from work last night, and I get a sigh and grumbled, "Happy Anniversary". Wouldn't look at me, no smile, no kiss...nothing.

So, I come back here to my computer and just start crying. Then he sees me crying and sighs again, "What's wrong? You look angry." I didn't know how to respond. Isn't it obvious considering what JUST happened? I finally said, "Why does it seem like this is just another day to you?" Now he's walking past me grumbling, "It's not just another day."

Umm..really? I'm so frustrated and so drained. I'm just so done.

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lasergraph · 70-79, M

It is said that a perfect marriage is two imperfect people who refuse to give up, there is a lot of truth to that. Complacency generally creeps in but expectation is the number one cause of the death of a relationship. I have been married 44 years and many said it wouldn't last, I am just waiting to see. A couple will never be just a rubber stamp of each other even though you will naturally grow to be more similar you are still 2 unique individuals. You won't feel the same emotions at the same times but he should have acknowledged the anniversary. Men unfortunately are pretty blunt, we don't take hints well or subtleties. I hope he is able to express some emotions and tells you what is inside his heart. Happy anniversary.