I Am Married But Lonely

Today is my anniversary. We've been having some issues lately anyway, but I've been trying to get him to work it out. Anyway, I come downstairs, post a picture of us at our wedding and a nice sentiment on Facebook and go to say Happy Anniversary to him. He's all pissed off from work last night, and I get a sigh and grumbled, "Happy Anniversary". Wouldn't look at me, no smile, no kiss...nothing.

So, I come back here to my computer and just start crying. Then he sees me crying and sighs again, "What's wrong? You look angry." I didn't know how to respond. Isn't it obvious considering what JUST happened? I finally said, "Why does it seem like this is just another day to you?" Now he's walking past me grumbling, "It's not just another day."

Umm..really? I'm so frustrated and so drained. I'm just so done.

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uncalled4 · 56-60, M

Sounds like he is still pissed about work. He could also be cognizant of the problems with you. Putting those two together might be too much...right now. He could be shutting down in order to avoid taking things out on you. Just my opinion, we men love you to death, but we also feel the pressure of having to herald birthdays, anniversaries, etc. You did nothing wrong from what you say.....but....your expectations that showing him your wedding picture was just going to make everything go away was not realistic. Personally, that might have made me do the same thing, yet I feel neither of you are wrong. He did acknowledge the day. Sounds like you both should sit down with a professional. No way does it sound unworkable!