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dancingtongue · 80-89, M
Married 43 years until I lost her to cancer. Two kids.

We had "date" nights, weekends where we dropped the kids with grandparents. Got to do extended travels once we were empty-nesters and retired. The intimacy became more limited towards the end, and I accept responsibility for that. She had so many mobility and health issues I feared aggravating her pains and treated her like a fragile porcelain doll. I remember he saying, after her mastectomy and chemotherapy, "the breast may be gone, but it still needs loving" and I probably didn't give it -- or the rest -- as much physical love as I should have.

Marriage is a partnership. It evolves and changes, and the pleasures you get at different points are like apples and oranges: different, without necessarily being better. But in retrospect the first few years are the most memorable imho. It is not just because the personal interaction becomes more familiar and jaded (if you don't mix it up with some spontaneous "date" activities), but because you usually are just starting out, finances are challenging, everything is new and an adventure together. But there is a different sort of joy to look back, see the kids -- and grandkids -- independent and successful, and have self-congratulatory memories as well.

LadyGrace · Best Comment
New couples shouldn't panic if things don't seem to be going as smoothly as they thought. It takes work and that's when some couples don't want to put in the work and then they wonder why their marriage don't work. You always go through that period of adjustment when you're newly married. Just never let the communication between you and your partner grow cold and show each other respect and talk things out and you'll have a great marriage. Don't yell. Talk.
Still happily married since August 1980

Yes, you have good times and bad times - just disagreements

4 kids - 43, 38, 31
Oldest passed away at 19
married 6 years now, 2 kids, his from his first marriage. still get a tingle when the garage door opener signals he's home for the evening. life is fine
Platinum · M
Been married for 65 years its great and im enjoying every minute, four great kids and would not change my life ....
YoungPoet345 · 26-30, F
Been married since last May. We are still dating, having fun, and making love. No kids yet. A good first year between the two of us. Just looking to move into our own place and decouple from his relatives.
fanuc2013 · 51-55, F
We've been married 35 yrs, and we still sit on the couch and hold hands!
The first 5 years were pretty good before things started to really crumble over the next decade. We are separated and waiting for divorce in October.
Convivial · 26-30, F
@PinkNailPolish89 new beginnings in are often scary... Rather than scary, see it as an opportunity
exexec · 70-79, C
Married 50 years, still making love, growing old together, enjoying family and friends, doing volunteer work, two children, four grandchildren.
FemSteps · 26-30, M
1st year was great. We’re at 4 years and a lot has changed for the better.
Musicman · 61-69, M
35 years for us. No kids. She told me upfront in our first two weeks of dating that she couldn't have children so I knew what I was getting into. We are happily retired. Currently she has been experiencing health problems the past couple of year. Hopefully her health will steadily improve now and we can enjoy life again.
SpectralMourning · 41-45, M
Having kids has made it worth it, so much there to love.
Blondily · F
We're just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
Close to 30 years, one kid, no sex, when it was it was somewhat boring. I wanted to experiment more, she wanted to experiment less. She does her thing, I do my thing. Pretty much got no friends because she wants to go everywhere and do everything I do. It gets a drag after that long. Sorry to burst your bubble, but all that happy shit is an illusion.
Saucylover · 26-30, F
@aboveaverageaveragejoe That’s very unfortunate. I think happiness is fleeting. But contentment is the true goal. I’m happy and thankful for my marriage. It’s not perfect, but you seem to be neither happy or content. I could be wrong, and I don’t mean to assume. But do you think you’d feel better if you dissolved the marriage? No disrespect btw.
@Saucylover none taken.

 
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