Is love come arranged marriage the best of both worlds?

So in this form of relationships, the couple falls in love and chooses their own partner. They get to go on dates and get to know each other and decide if they want to pursue the marriage, but then the families take over the rest of the formalities that make it somewhat arranged like introductions to the love interests family and formal courtship is approved and then marriage. The parents bless the union. What are your thoughts?

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Northwest · M

As it turns out, 50% of marriages where people make their own choices, end up in divorce, while arranged marriages tend to last longer, but are the latter marriages happy?

What makes a marriage "happy" is a complex issue, and a big chunk of it has to do with kids, extended family, etc.

I think you should make a list of "your" ideal marriage and family, and this includes all family, kids, extended family, intimacy, life outlook, etc. to help guide you through this process.

We create a list for simple things, like going to the grocery store, so why not create one for the most important decision you're going to make in your life?

Adogslife · 61-69, M

Wouldn’t work for me. Forget the arranged part. My parents were angry that I married a Catholic woman.

They refused to attend the wedding. For my wedding present, they sent a certified letter to my work. Inside were my college loans.

hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M

The fact is that arranged marriages last longer than the romantic marriages do. A greater purpose served than just feelings.

Thinkerbell · 41-45, F

@hippyjoe1955

You are overlooking the fact that in countries where arranged marriages are the norm, there is generally great social stigma attached to divorce.

hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M

@Thinkerbell Agreed which is what I was hinting at when I mentioned a 'greater purpose". If all you are guided by is your feelings no relationship will last.

AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

I would never let anyone dictate my life especially not my love life

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F

@AngelUnforgiven usually in those kind of marriages the woman doesn't have a say

Ferric67 · M

ShenaniganFoodie · 36-40, M

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