Moving together after marriage seems like a pretty big & sudden adjustment to me. What if you found out you hate the way your spouse lives & they're kinda intolerable? 😅 Sometimes you don't know that kind of thing until you live together day in/day out for a while.

Everyone is different though so to each his own.. but I pick living together before marriage. I'd rather know what I'm getting myself into

A great relationship is about two things, appreciating the similarities and respecting the differences.

You need to have respect, responsibility, commitment and appreciation in your relationship. You have to see if the perspective to these core values changes for you both before and after or not.

I know many people who have changed after marriage.

I mean... I've lived with someone twice in my life and I loved both and I would never consider moving in with anyone that I don't like.
I did have a failed attempt now that I recall it, a guy we moved in, early 20s and after a week I knew I didn't want this anymore. But to be honest, I never did from the beginning, I was just confused.

So... I think it's a good Idea to trust your gut and then you know...
And to not hurry, but then again I still haven't married and I don't see it coming.

Maybe married people are more entitled to answer this!!!

Back in my days it was seen a taboo in my country.But times have changed and I see nothing wrong in moving in together with your potential partner that gives you idea about their behaviour at home(we're not the same person we project ourselves to be in the outside world.How we behave at home is what we actually are and so moving in together is actually a good idea).

It's a good idea that couples move in together before marriage to get to know each other more. Either you'll hate or love being there with them. That is the time you can decide whether you want to live with the person forever. Better know now than later.

You don’t really know someone until you live with them. I’d rather move in together first.

In my day, we waited, and some of us even waited for sex until after marriage. Today, in a changed society and the high cost of living, I think it makes sense for couples to move in together before marriage.

Yes they should move in together before marriage to gauge compatibility in a living situation because honestly while dating people can still maintain some type of facade or keep certain things to themselves that might have a negative impact on the relationship. But it's like test driving a car if you were allowed to bring it home for 30 days then you can really decide how well it fits you in your lifestyle

Getting married without knowing what it's like to live together seems like an empty promise to me. (Even more than it is if you know each other through and through, but can't know what anything will be like in five years.)

What's the point of marriage then, if you live together before. You can't PRE do or live your married life before by living together. It takes many years of learning and experiencing along the way.

You don't buy a car without a test drive. I say yes

Before marriage

I'm in favor of moving in before marriage, because it's less permanent if you decide you're not getting along.

Why even get married? Its only the love, respect and jot that makes someone stay, not marriage.

Yes, that way they can see each other for who they truly are.

Definitely before. I moved in with my bf the day before our third date 😂

before

Before marriage and that way so much money wouldn't be wasted on weddings and divorces and more kids would have a chance of growing up with both parents

Definitely live together first. Worked for me!

Commitment is so much more than testing the waters.

Whatever works

Move in first -- better to find out if you;re making a mistake before you actually marry.

Ideally, you should live together for at least a couple of years before marriage.

Why so long??? It's enough time to "settle in" and for the rose tinted glasses to fall off your faces.

Before, it's way easier to break up than get a whole divorce

I would want to move in before marriage

Before. Work out the kinks before you’re fully committed. It’s also a necessary compatibility test.

Live together first.

Wait till after.

Try it before you buy it

wait until after. and never see each other naked until then.

Waiting is best, but not practical in most people's minds.

Nope, after. And before you say it...! spouses are not cars!

Marriage is a trap

Okay, I will spell it out and say something very explicitly. 'When You Have Intercourse With Someone. The Intercourse Part. You are married to them'.

Marriage is a gimmick for churches and government.

You don't need a piece of paper

Intimacy should wait not the living together