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I think it did back when most lives were much shorter and the average marriage lasted 15 years until one of the partners died.
I think it still makes sense if you want to make a commitment to raising kids till they have achieved a trade or career. But too few young people realize just how much it takes to do the job successfully.
We should consider training and regular practice in listening and communication skills as a prerequisite before starting a family.
I think it still makes sense if you want to make a commitment to raising kids till they have achieved a trade or career. But too few young people realize just how much it takes to do the job successfully.
We should consider training and regular practice in listening and communication skills as a prerequisite before starting a family.
Spoiledbrat · F
@hartfire That will never work. People learn on their own.
@Spoiledbrat everyone learns to some extent on their own - but that's THE slowest way to learn anything.
Others have already discovered what works and what works better - especially psychological research that has been able to track thousands of families from all different demographics and thus been able to discover what techniques have the highest rates of success. These are learnable skills that make a huge difference to effective parenting and the overall happiness of the whole family.
Try consulting Psychology Today online (it's free) on any question you might have, and you'll see what I mean.
Others have already discovered what works and what works better - especially psychological research that has been able to track thousands of families from all different demographics and thus been able to discover what techniques have the highest rates of success. These are learnable skills that make a huge difference to effective parenting and the overall happiness of the whole family.
Try consulting Psychology Today online (it's free) on any question you might have, and you'll see what I mean.
HumanEarth · 56-60, F
Marriage only work if you have these qualities and are unlikely to break up. Do you have the same qualities? I am married , this is us below and we have been together for over 20 years.
1) We prefer spending time in each other's company in bed rather than attending a crowded party or event. We understand that the most memorable nights are the ones spent together, talking, laughing, and simply being ourselves. We don't require a large, crowded event or loud noise to have a good time.
2) We provide each other with a sense of security and love. We know that we can always rely on one another, no matter the circumstances.
3) We have the ability to make each other laugh even when we're not in the mood. We can find humor in even the most challenging situations and consistently bring smiles to each other's faces.
4) We're not just lovers but also best friends. We can openly discuss anything with each other and have unwavering trust in our relationship.
5) We are not hesitant to tell each other how much we love each other. We cuddle & kiss without concern for what other people think. All that matters is that we know our love is sincere.
1) We prefer spending time in each other's company in bed rather than attending a crowded party or event. We understand that the most memorable nights are the ones spent together, talking, laughing, and simply being ourselves. We don't require a large, crowded event or loud noise to have a good time.
2) We provide each other with a sense of security and love. We know that we can always rely on one another, no matter the circumstances.
3) We have the ability to make each other laugh even when we're not in the mood. We can find humor in even the most challenging situations and consistently bring smiles to each other's faces.
4) We're not just lovers but also best friends. We can openly discuss anything with each other and have unwavering trust in our relationship.
5) We are not hesitant to tell each other how much we love each other. We cuddle & kiss without concern for what other people think. All that matters is that we know our love is sincere.
BohemianBabe · M
HumanEarth · 56-60, F
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Not really.
Partnerships require work.
And the stresses and strains of modern life mean that everyone has priorities before you even get together.
If a couple are entrenched in earning a living that often means they have work commitments and dealing with the cost of ridiculous outgoings.
I wonder where people think they'll get the time for each other.
In some economic circles it might make sense to pay one rate for rent/mortgage but once you do that you wonder how on earth you both managed to keep two places going.
And god forbid it all goes wrong, you have to start all over again.
Partnerships require work.
And the stresses and strains of modern life mean that everyone has priorities before you even get together.
If a couple are entrenched in earning a living that often means they have work commitments and dealing with the cost of ridiculous outgoings.
I wonder where people think they'll get the time for each other.
In some economic circles it might make sense to pay one rate for rent/mortgage but once you do that you wonder how on earth you both managed to keep two places going.
And god forbid it all goes wrong, you have to start all over again.
Pfuzylogic · M
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BohemianBabe · M
@BabyDolls Yeah, which isn't ideal, since I agree, what actually matters is policy. But the sad truth is that plenty of people don't vote based on policy, so it's good that we got Eminem, Beyoncé, and Taylor Swift.
BabyDolls · 22-25, T
@BohemianBabe what makes it more meaningful is the fact a lot of celebrities this year are getting involved for a good reason (Eminem having 2 daughters and a non-binary child) Beyoncé and Taylor being women. If people voted more on policies it would probably help America a lot more
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Spoiledbrat · F
@Blessica Books have been written on this. The Philosopher Swedenborg founded a religion based on the idea. A movie was based off it about Soul Mates with Robin Williams as a actor:
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I myself was targeted by a brazilian woman living in Chicago a decade ago by the serial monogamy scheme from a website, we started off as friends and then she revealed her husband was terrible, and then she wanted to leave him, and then she had two kids, and she hated the winters and being stuck indoors all winter long and all her plants outside died.... and I was considering it thinking she was being abused.... I always tell women who are physically abused to leave.... and I found out the terrible thing about him was a drinking problem and a gun collecting hobby. She couldn't understand why he had so many guns, but knew of both issues prior to marrying him. (Men collecting guns is common, and liberal women often complain about it in the US, it is a trope).
So I realized all she was, was a slow motion wrecking ball moving in and out of men's lives. She did end up divorcing him, and took her two kids down to Sao Paulo, abandoning him. He made over $300,000 a year and wasn't abusive, but lost his kids because she took off. If she didn't target me it would of been someone else.
And I was seriously thinking of moving down with her and planting coffee and having a pet monkey. Laws forbid a indoor monkey but if it lives outside not a issue.
So I avoid serial monogamist now. It's a latin america thing, but Brazil is most notorious for it. The women there just exist to ruin men's lives, not no reason, no fault to the men.
[media=https://youtu.be/KMvYoDLpTkU]
I myself was targeted by a brazilian woman living in Chicago a decade ago by the serial monogamy scheme from a website, we started off as friends and then she revealed her husband was terrible, and then she wanted to leave him, and then she had two kids, and she hated the winters and being stuck indoors all winter long and all her plants outside died.... and I was considering it thinking she was being abused.... I always tell women who are physically abused to leave.... and I found out the terrible thing about him was a drinking problem and a gun collecting hobby. She couldn't understand why he had so many guns, but knew of both issues prior to marrying him. (Men collecting guns is common, and liberal women often complain about it in the US, it is a trope).
So I realized all she was, was a slow motion wrecking ball moving in and out of men's lives. She did end up divorcing him, and took her two kids down to Sao Paulo, abandoning him. He made over $300,000 a year and wasn't abusive, but lost his kids because she took off. If she didn't target me it would of been someone else.
And I was seriously thinking of moving down with her and planting coffee and having a pet monkey. Laws forbid a indoor monkey but if it lives outside not a issue.
So I avoid serial monogamist now. It's a latin america thing, but Brazil is most notorious for it. The women there just exist to ruin men's lives, not no reason, no fault to the men.
Spoiledbrat · F
I think it does for some people. Some people want companionship. It's hard but worth it. @Blessica
RopinTexan · 31-35, M
Ideally, yes. The problem is how the government keeps changing what it means. Most, if not all, of the modern problems with marriage stem from government involvement. Marriage should be between a man, a woman, and God.p
BabyDolls · 22-25, T
@RopinTexan so what’s a gay marriage then if it’s not a marriage?
RopinTexan · 31-35, M
@BabyDolls An oxymoron. That’s like asking “what’s a round square?”
BabyDolls · 22-25, T
@RopinTexan how is it?
whattttt!! wow,,, i had no idea, but i also never asked 🥹 @BabyDolls
Thinkerbell · 41-45, F
cd4259 · 61-69, M
If you love someone who is your soulmate
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Thinkerbell · 41-45, F
Adogslife · 61-69, M
I feel more complete with a woman in my life. It’s a definite, “yes” for me.
Wiseacre · F
Yes, for those who plan children! Otherwise, NO!
Only to do once yes
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
Again see the Zo é tribe! 😆
Ducky · 31-35, F
Nope.
swirlie · 31-35, F
If you want to stay single, then marriage doesn't make sense.
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