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Feeling so alone...

My wife fell two days ago, we had to call the First Aid Squad to come. She's in hospital now, not really hurt, but she's never coming home. Her dementia has progressed so far we just can't take care of her at home, can't keep her safe, so she's going into rehab and then a memory care unit. The house is so empty. We've been together 45 years. Nothing feels right without her here.
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kodiac · 26-30, M
val70 · 56-60
How are you yourself coping there? Having problems to go over to see her? Look around for help. When my mom had her Parkinson I found that there's a lot of volunteer groups that go to people's houses just for a short visit or something. After mom passed away I made sure that dad was visited atleast once every day. Either nurse, cleaning lady, someone who brought his shopping or his dinner now and then, etc.
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
@val70 Just trying not to cry. I know there are things I have to do, things I should do, but right now it's hard to feel the reasons for doing them. I know logically the reasons, but my heart just keeps asking "why"? And our son lives with us now, so he's here every day after work. But I realized this morning that for years now the reason for my days was to make sure she was okay and cared for, and making morning coffee just for myself seems pointless, or making lunches, whatever.
val70 · 56-60
@ChipmunkErnie I'm glad that your son is with you now. My dad is still good enough to be on his own. It's this year 14 years ago that mom died. All what I can say more is that you should ask help wherever you can get it. Only in the second year of taking some of the burden of helping my dad myself, I know how heavy it gets at times. I'm now working part-time and can do that for another three year with safeguard for my pension. Take one step, one year at the time. It's emotional difficult now, but please, do look after yourself there. All my love X
PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F
I'm sorry to hear that, dementia seems such a cruel illness. Even though this is a lot to adjust to, it's for the best. Your wife will be supported better for in the memory care unit and with good specialist care she will have more good days so you will have more quality time together this way. Hopefully you'll be able to visit often and that will soften the loneliness. I lost my husband a year and a half ago, so I understand about how quiet and empty the house will be feeling. I put the TV or music on so there's some background noise. It seems to help. Xx
H1raeth · 41-45, M
God bless you all
Foxes · F
I'm sorry to hear that. Whenever you feel extremely lonely, just remember you have all of us here on SW.
NewWorldToronto · 51-55, M
Poppies · 61-69, F
I am so sorry.
I feel for you. Mine was over a year ago now. Just focus on getting her needs met and as happy as possible under the circumstances..I reckon the guilt gets worse before it gets better. But we both know it had to happen..😷
exexec · 70-79, C
I am so sorry. It's something most of us oldsters will face, but it is never easy.
Nick1 · 61-69, M
Sorry to hear that. It’s sad part of growing old. Hope you will be able to adjust this new reality. Hope your wife will be in good care too. 🙏
You have SW community here for your virtual support. It would be hard for you to see her in this condition.

 
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