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Two year wasted

Two months ago, I finally broke free from my toxic, two-year relationship. During that time, I lost sight of myself and the things I loved. His alcohol addiction often led to dangerous and abusive behavior. Despite my patience and understanding, it became clear that his ambiguous relationship with his ex-girlfriend was a red flag.

It's hard to believe I let myself be manipulated and disrespected. I used to be strong and set boundaries. But trauma can make us vulnerable. While I harbor resentment, I also understand the cycle of hurt. It's time to focus on healing and rebuilding my life.
The past two months have been a rollercoaster. While I'm committed to rebuilding myself, it won't be easy. Last week, I reached out, seeking the honesty he denied me during our relationship. Instead of taking responsibility, he played the victim, blaming me and portraying himself as a kind and helpful person. His ex even contacted me, adding another layer of complexity to this already messy situation.
If you’ve been through similar experiences, I’d love to hear your stories and how you overcame those challenges.
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ViciDraco · 36-40, M
Some people spend 20 or more years learning the lessons you have in two. It's terrible that you were subjected to a toxic relationship and I how your next one, when or if you feel ready for it, is doubly rewarding to make up for the losses of this one.
IntelligentGirl2 · 26-30, F
@ViciDraco Yes very true !
Northwest · M
Do you have kids together? Jointly own property? Work for him? Have a joint bank account? Share a house? Share a pet?

If none of this applies, file it under "I learned a lesson", see a therapist to make sure it sticks, cut all contact, and don't deal with it.
IntelligentGirl2 · 26-30, F
@Northwest Thank you, yes it's very true. I have no ties with him anymore. And yeah I will see a therapist.
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Well good for you.

And you learned something from those 2 years so it was not wasted.
IntelligentGirl2 · 26-30, F
AllycatAD · 26-30
Wow, I feel for you two, I can only hope your lives become much better in the future.
IntelligentGirl2 · 26-30, F
@AllycatAD Thank you ! :)
AllycatAD · 26-30
@IntelligentGirl2 you're very welcome
JRVanguard · 26-30, M
Glad you’re free now
You’ll make new memories with better people
IntelligentGirl2 · 26-30, F
@JRVanguard Yes :)
JRVanguard · 26-30, M
@IntelligentGirl2 You’re handling this very well and are so much better off without them in your life 🤗
I wanna know his side of the story before making any judgements
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
Not two year totally wasted if you're emerging from the experience stronger, more aware, and ready to make better choices. Stay strong and keep moving forward.
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
One day when he is over his alcohol addiction he will regret his decisions he made
benfaltiger004 · 46-50, M
Good step forward to a better life 👍🏽
Convivial · 26-30, F
Beware of the perpetual victim...
fanuc2013 · 51-55, F
Good for you!
At least you only wasted two years..
Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M
Am glad you are out of a dangerous situation
You have nothing to be ashamed of
His attitude after you recontacted him is disgraceful, just move on and no more contact with him or his ex
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
I met my crazy narcissist ex right as my divorce was becoming final. What a bad idea that was, because I was so spent and emotionally taxed that I could not fight off her advances and demands. Trauma sure can make us vulnerable.

It takes forever to get rid of a narc. You have to be firm and unflinching(grey rock I guess) and stand your ground 100%.
No real secret, just run with your head down.
IntelligentGirl2 · 26-30, F
@uncalled4 Yes narcissists are so destructive! 🙏🏼
empanadas · 31-35, M
Sorry you were going through so much. Glad you broke free. Never had such a toxic relationship thankfully but i did have to break up with basically the love of my life because she was from a different that her family didnt accept me. It was so tough.. took me years to get back to normal. Had to get back with doing the things i loved to do. Which was one of the reasons i started traveling so much. I hope you a quickly recovery and im rooting for your happiness like always

 
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