What is the best strategies to detach from someone

Same as protection from nuclear fallout: Time - Distance - Shielding.
In this situation now, I still want to take her to her hospital appointments (that would constitute closing the distance between us) as I did when we were a couple and also for a couple of years when I thought we were still together (yep that happened). I have received excellent advice from a friend, an elderly lady I work for (who also knew and liked my ex) and that advice was "don't", she has to start appreciating what you did for her. Absolutely right of course but difficult to give up helping somebody you loved.

One time I felt I wanted to leave town or relocate. I should have done that but I didn’t. Not to go far but we were from the same end of town and went to the same amenities in day to day life. Was kind of heartbreaking for me to constantly drive by his house to get to mine. I figured at the time I was just being a big baby but looking back even now, I prob would have gotten over it faster and with much more grace than I did.

wish them happiness . its hard to stop loving someone but sometimes what we call love is a mixture of selfless love and selfish need. by focussing on their happiness the part of us which trully cared can continue to care in a universal love kind of way and then all that is left to do is give time to the selfish need part to heal from its loss.

Ive been trying to figure out the same thing. Ive seen him twice in over a year and Im still not completely past it.
So let me know if you figure it out.

You get an answer to this question, please let me know as well. I am dealing with a situation where I got attached to someone as well.

Not easy but the only way I’ve ever found to successfully detach is zero contact, healthy distractions and the passage of time.

Here to read the comments. I need this help as well. Sorry you are hurting

Keep busy. Work on self improvement, mentally, physically and spiritually. Therapy. Make a concerted effort to reconnect with old friends you have drifted from. Spend time with a pet. Journal. Write unsent letters to the person to get it out of your head.

Let yourself grieve.

For me it was the time and another loving relationship which we also called rebound

I won’t prefer detachment.

Its just like going out to have a beer. Walk out...close the door behind you.....lock it/..... and keep walking.

No contact. Zero.

Eat them

Why do you want to detach?

Make some drama to make them upset then never contact them again

Tell them goodbye and that's it,no other response EVER

Bury the body

Sleep with someone else

Go out to buy some milk and never come back

Move to another country and buy a bar.