I’m struggling

You've never messaged me ☺😆

Super glue your hands together

I don't know your story, of course. But if you are talking about being unable to stop seeking sexual or romantic chats, and if you are saying that those chats have become a compulsion that is out of control, you are not alone.

There is a 12-step program called Sex Addicts Anonymous.

Here is their web site, which contains more information about sex addiction, and information about how to find a meeting near you.

www.saa-recovery.org

You are not a terrible person just for doing that - you are suffering from a obsessive compulsive disorder
Chatting & messaging addiction is a social disease
Just change your sim card, block internet and keep yourself away from the compulsive act. You will need 1)some plan of activities to pass the time and 2) some well wisher friend/relative whom you can phone or talk with about your difficult time, because kicking any habit is a difficult time.
I had to do that for kicking a decades old heroin habit. I know.
Best wishes for your recovery from this.

You just need to find something else to occupy your time. Watch more porn, or read a book, build a boat? I knew a guy built a boat once, took most of a year. Work something out that works for you. I think I'd build an airplane myself!

Get rid of your Internet, get rid of cellphone, go back to house telephone. Hell might well throw in there pay TV as well

Go back to pre 1980s

You seem to be very conflicted. From "I'm struggling," we moved on to "Am I searching for the impossible?” Being terrible doesn't have to mean remaining terrible. Please seek therapy.

How do you message other women when you yourself is not a woman or is this a woman posing as a man hmm

Well you can just stop now they you realize. What's the definition of insanity?

..."other" women...?

If you are a man, I guess you mean women other than your S/O...?

Take that excessive energy and do more things with your spouse and kids.

As long as your messages are not inappropriate, you're fine.

And why do you want to stop all this all of a sudden?

Send me your contacts before you delete them 🤔😂

Nothing wrong with that, so what's the problem??