Should i end it? Ive talked to him about this once, that he doesnt pay attention to me enough,...

What you describe are not the actions of someone who cares about you. This already is toxic. Want more for yourself. Get out now.

caccoon · 36-40

He's likely an avoidant attachment style type of person. If you read into that it might help you, so that you can understand that it will be very difficult for him to change, and he likely won't.

You deserve someone who can reciprocate your feelings and treat you with love

Good luck 💙

UndeadSona · F

It sounds like it already is toxic. Have some self respect

twistedrope · 26-30, M

I cared about the people I hurt mercilessly when i was 14-21. They were all right to leave me. Caring does not give one the right to make you feel unhappy and unloved. Ditch em

Carazaa · F

Caring about you should not be the only standard you have. He needs to show you he cares daily by being a good person! Doing drugs and partying with his friends until 5 am is absolutely a deal breaker. I would not complain to him or criticize him just tell him what you need to be happy,
I would say something like
"I am not very happy, I think I need a man who makes me happy who really loves me and takes really good care of himself and me so I need a break, but I wish you well, see you later"
Do not talk more than a minute to this guy, it's a total waste of time. Don't try to change him or nag him that just makes you a ... you know what 🤗

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

Yeah! The thing about men is that everyone always comes up with half-baked hypothesis's about the way we are and why we are that way but if a guy is doing this and giving you these kinds of signals that he doesn't give a fuck about you, trust me, he is straight forward, he genuinely doesn't give a fuck about you. Trust that his behavior is telling you the truth.

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stound

it sounds like you already know. maybe he wasn't ready. maybe he can't be what you want. it doesn't sound like you're getting what you need and i suspect its a big mistake to hang your happiness on the hope that someone else will change in the way you want or need.

SJones48 · 41-45, M

Do you still genuinely love him?

JonLosAngeles66 · M

You can change people.

SomeMichGuy · M

Already toxic to you as of 11 Sept.

WhiteZebra · F

Yes.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

End it.

Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M

Yeah you deserve better leave him

NativePortlander1970

I am so very sorry You are going through this :(

To be quite honest I think You have already made up your mind and posting this to get support and justification to end it, it would be the wisest thing to do.