If it’s a pattern with several different people did you consider you may be the issue?
Lexiitexii · 31-35, F
@Notladylike Actually not I can honestly say what you see is what you get. I’m alwsys good to people but even in the argument he called me weak. I’m weak to these people for being good to them. Im weak for not reacting to him as he is taunting me with the B word. There’s no winning with people like this. They go for people like me who are open, honest and giving. These people treat ppl like me so terrible then when we leave the threaten us. It’s sick and I’ve even had a brother do this to me. I don’t talk to him now he said if I send him back to Michigan he is going to spread nasty rumors and lies to my grandma about me. I sent him back and never spoke to him again. This girl that I was helping in my 20s I tried to end the friendship she said if I leave her at Walmart she will pop all my tires and also tell everything I ever told her to my enemies.
Lexiitexii · 31-35, F
@Notladylike The only thing I’ve done wrong is give these people amo, I should stop venting to people once I get close to them, and telling them things they could later use against me. Especially if I shared child hood traumas and issues in my past. These days you just can’t do that. I seen a post about your sharing things to express how you over came things and still try and the whole time bad people are rubbing their hands together with things to use against you .
SW-User
It sounds like a narcissist and the part with getting angry when you pick up on off vibes is an avoidant personality. They fear confrontation and will rather fight instead of resolving. Also another side, there are avoidants who do the same, you pick up on an off vibe, you tell them if it's not working out, they can end it. But they say all is great and turn it around telling you ' but it you feel it's not working out for you it's ok if you leave' they will never be the ones to break it off. They dont wanna be the bad guy so they make you break it off with them. They use a lot of tactics, like periods of ghosting, very little communication, slow fading...all in hopes you will be the one to break up with them so they're the victim
ElwoodBlues · M
@Vin53 Yeah, but that's on the Down Low!
Subsumedpat · 36-40, M
Everything is not a personality disorder though some things are.
Convivial · 26-30, F
Their insecurity... Nothing too do with you
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
Vin53 · M
" he is a closeted DL"??
Bang5luts · M
Sounds like they are gaslighting you.
