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Should I gift my bf money since he helped me when I didn’t have it ?

So my boyfriend helped me a few times when I was doing bad. Thanks to some adjustments on my bills I no longer have to struggle and live paycheck to paycheck. Would it be masculine to repay him with a card and some munnion inside it? A lot of the advice out here is saying never give to a guy cause he will resent you or require that of you moving forward. When I didn’t have money for my past few phone bills he did that and put gas in my car so I could work. I want to show him I’m thankful for everything he has done for me. If there is a other way to say thank you then I can.
Lexiitexii
31-35, F
26 replies 213 views Aug 20, 2024
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MrAverage1965 · 61-69, M
Personally I would offer him the money he can always refuse. If he refuses and you still want to show your gratitude then think of something he would really like and buy him a gift. It doesn't need to be expensive but it needs to show you thought about what he would actually want.
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Lexiitexii · 31-35, F
@MrAverage1965 Thank you for your comment. 💙
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Justafantasy · M
Their is other ways to show him. I think the simplest solution for you would be to ask him if he wants you to repay him? You'll have a better understanding of each other moving forward. Those of us guessing at what he wants on the internet know nothing of either of you
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Lexiitexii · 31-35, F
@Justafantasy Good idea I just asked him and he said no need to repay him just look at it as a gift.
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Justafantasy · M
@Lexiitexii communication or lack of is a major relationship issue.
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Lexiitexii · 31-35, F
@WhereTheCloudsareFarBehindMe Lol girl 😂😂😂 I be thinking about it. I even left before and he came back after me so I thought it was meant to be.
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Elisbch · M
If I gave a girlfriend money, it would be to help her out .. out of love and I wouldn't be expecting it back unless that was the agreement beforehand. It would be nice if she did other things to show her appreciation. That would be up to her what she decided of course. By other things I mean non-sexual things.
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Elisbch · M
@nothereforpeople

No offense taken. 🙂
I can't speak for all men of course but if he values the woman he's with, then there's other qualities and priorities than just sex. You're right,
some men are only interested in sex.
Those imho are n not interested in a true relationship. There's a lot more to mutual happiness than just sex. Unfortunately, hormones get in the men's way especially younger ones. I would suspect many of the guys that may see past the sex are ones you may not be interested in only because they may be the quiet ones, not popular, shy ones, maybe even considered nerdy ones. It's going to possibly prove time consuming and frustrating finding them. They're not all the same. Stick to your standards regarding sex.
Otherwise the pressure may always be on you for that. (imho)
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nothereforpeople · F
@Elisbch I once (less than 2yrs ago) went for one of the shy nerdy, innocent-looking guys... he made me regret that sooo much. It was a relationship that introduced me to covert narcissism. I'm not quite over it yet

But I agree with what you said. Thank you for sharing :)
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Elisbch · M
@nothereforpeople

Oh sorry to hear you went thru that. I've had a run in with a narcissistic relationship before. Horrible experiences! I hope you can get past it soon. 🙏🏻
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Quimliqer · 70-79, M
If he runs into trouble be the first to step up, but for now it’s better to show your appreciation in other ways!!
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Lexiitexii · 31-35, F
@SomeMichGuy trust me he been got thanked in that way😂. I just feel like I should give him something more.
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SomeMichGuy · M
@Lexiitexii Gotcha. Good gf!
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being · 36-40, F
Wait is the same aggressive guy we read about in that other post...right ... ? 🥺
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Dignaga
You should wait until he needs help on something. It can be covering a car towing bill if his car breaks down while you two travel together, or helping him if he forgets his credit card at a dinner together out on the town.

Men get pleasure gifting. Just don't take it as something you have a right to until you are married.
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DunningKruger · 61-69, M
You should repay him the money you borrowed. This is not you "giving him money" — it's you repaying a debt. If he resents you for it or has a problem with this, then it's likely a red flag meaning that you need to rethink your relationship.
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Bleak · 36-40, F
Yes.
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smiler2012 · 56-60
[@lexitexii] 🤔well as a guy from my prespective ithink what you are planning too do is nice idea and a very kind gesture of appreciation
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Crazywaterspring · 61-69, M
Offer money. If he declines be creative. Cook something or do something for him that you do well.
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