Why do my girlfriends always start liking me, or try to hook up w/me it’s weird? I’m also...

What a shitty situation to find yourself in. Wish I had advice but I tend to just cute people out of my life that cause those issues which isn't the best advice lol .

perceptivei · 36-40, F

I dont want nobody boyfriend trying to hurt me over their ugly gf

🤣🤣🤣 This is so funny!

I actually don’t even know if I want to continue the friendship because I’m tired of always paying for everything.

I wouldn't be ok with this at all... Is she an attention whore? Does she actually enjoy spending time with you, or does she enjoy making her boyfriend jealous? Even if it's both, she's still using you.

Also I’m a attractive blk woman that’s just tired of everyone sexualizing me unprovoked even straight female friends do this to me.

Society makes it difficult for girls to have friendships sometimes, I think. Unless you really know the person, you can't even befriend a female these days without thinking "Is she going to think I'm interested in her for saying or doing -----."

Back in the day, I never thought that way.

I definitely wouldn't be ok with paying anyone else's way on a regular basis. And, I'm weary of women who seem to use me to get attention from others.

^^^ For example, I have a coworker who is much younger than me and acts like she's cool with me. In reality, the only time she wants to "talk" about her life (she'd never ask about mine) is if some other random male coworker is listening. It's not the same situation, but it reminds me of that.

I'd probably not want anything to do with your friend. Lol.

GohantheThird · M

When you're in that situation, the best thing to do is to be respectful and try to shrug it off. Phrases like "I appreciate your friendship" will up a lot. If she starts complaining about her boyfriend, just say "That's rough, buddy!" That's my go-to anyway, and it can kind of work. You can also leave her on read and ignore her messages. No response is the response, I promise. Eventually she'll give up and move on.
It happens to all of us, and it isn't fun. Hopefully you will get through it intact, but if worse comes to worse you'll have to tell her boyfriend about it (though he might wise up and dump her before then).

WillaKissing · 56-60

I have no advice to give you on this one. I guess being a heterosexual cross dresser I get the same reaction from men, and I want nothing to any man romantically or sexually ever in my life. Why the heck can we just not be friends? So, I just cut them out and move on with my life without them to avoid any troubles or issues.

I understand you 100%, and I cut them out of my life and walk away.

HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M

Distance yourself from her

exchrist · 31-35

I suggest always splitting the bill. She thinks u 'like' her and isnt carrying her own 'weight' as a result. Tell her to pay her own way or its stay in and eat her food? That kinda thing might work?

22Michelle · 61-69, T

Some women just want to make their boyfriend / husband jealous and get off on his anger and / or him turning on the imagined lover. Been there, done it and it's best to walk away.

pdockal · 56-60, M

They might think when you treat them (pay for the activity) that's is a date and it starts from that

Teirdalin · 31-35

May be worth it to just start telling them off bluntly and aggressively.

froggtongue · M

Ya. So maybe it's time to just lay down the law and stop being so nice. Pay for your own ticket, not theirs, and then look at the other person meaningfully and walk toward the theater. Then when they make a pass, give them one verbal warning. On the second pass, shut down further contact until it seems they get the idea.

That's my recommendation. I hope you find a good way to deal with life and continue forward happily.

slorollin · 41-45, M

It's simple. You've got the kavorka lol

samanthaX · 41-45, T

I feel your pain my love 💋

Why do my girlfriends always start liking me, or try to hook up w/me it’s weird? I’m also straight.