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Why do my girlfriends always start liking me, or try to hook up w/me it’s weird? I’m also straight.

So this girl has a boyfriend and a 1 year old child, and she keeps trying to make passes at me. I don’t want to have issues with her boyfriend since I’m always hanging out with them but she even lied to him to make him think I was taking her out for Valentine’s Day. Then told me he got jealous af and mad. I dont want nobody boyfriend trying to hurt me over their ugly gf. I’m just a nice friend and I like to treat my friends good but I would never go that way with her, for one she’s not my type even if I was, and I like men. Yesterday she claimed to miss read my text and tried to flirt with me but I responded with a question mark, whats a nice way to call her out for this. I told her stuff like this bothers me because everytime I try to make female friends they start the delusions. These girls don’t know what a good friend is if you take them to movies, out to eat as friends, or just to get out the house they think you want to sleep with them. I actually don’t even know if I want to continue the friendship because I’m tired of always paying for everything, I did it the first few times because I was being nice but maybe I need to stop because these girls think I want to pay they bills and be with them. Also I’m a attractive blk woman that’s just tired of everyone sexualizing me unprovoked even straight female friends do this to me.
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When you're in that situation, the best thing to do is to be respectful and try to shrug it off. Phrases like "I appreciate your friendship" will up a lot. If she starts complaining about her boyfriend, just say "That's rough, buddy!" That's my go-to anyway, and it can kind of work. You can also leave her on read and ignore her messages. No response is the response, I promise. Eventually she'll give up and move on.
It happens to all of us, and it isn't fun. Hopefully you will get through it intact, but if worse comes to worse you'll have to tell her boyfriend about it (though he might wise up and dump her before then).