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Idk what else to do

I've been with my bf for about 2 years and we've been rocky for the past couple months but since 2 weeks ago I feel like he's done with me.

He says he's not and that I just need to try but even when I do what he wants he never has the patience or as soon as I open my mouth it's just seen as me trying to beef with him. Idk what else to do, I can't stop crying thinking about when did I lost him? At what point did he change? What was the final stretch that made him being over me?

I tried to get over those feelings and thoughts and try focus on getting better and doing things to show my appreciation but just as I am actively doing this he breaks my heart by allowing something that never should have happened.

Now I know that since I chose to stay we need over it but for that to happen I need him to understand how broken and hurt I am and that I can't just wake up the next day and play all happy when at any time I have by myself or with our baby I just can't stop crying. He keeps on getting an attitude and tell me to stop crying and bring it down a notch which just makes it worse.

I've never thought I would be in this situation, I always thought we would be able to talk whatever we need to talk about but he really doesn't care no more.

What do I do? I truly love him and want to stay together I just can't with the constant pressure to not say anything that can be seen as argumentative. I've literally being stopping myself from talking because I know it's not what I want but I know that if I do he'll just say I am beefing. I feel like if this is how I am going to be I can't.

There's way more to why I know he's done with me I am just wondering if there's anything that I can still do to save it or I should just let it go and accept he's done.
BarbossasHusband · 36-40, M
Difference between men and women (as a general rule, atleast) is when a woman break up, it's bc she's considered it for a long time, but kept giving the relationship a chance to change for the better.

A man breaks up as soon as he thinks he's giving up, but usually regret it after a moments thought.

Not saying you should stay, just giving you an idea of the thought process going on.
Quetzalcoatlus · 46-50, M
You’re too young to be stuck in a bad relationship. Know your value and go find yourself…
Umm... no... change in any relationship cannot be one sided.

You both have to want this relationship to work and be prepared to do whatever it takes to make it work.

What he is currently doing is akin to turning the light on - then complaining that it's too bright.

This is terminal and there's nothing you can do to stop it. Communication is one thing that every relationship needs - it's the fuel that keeps the fire burning and, without continuous communication between the two of you, there's nothing for the flames to consume. What's going to happen to your fire after you stop feeding it???
BigBulge · 41-45, M
Don't you deserve better than this ?
He isn't going to change.
The sooner you admit that this just didn't work out, the sooner you can go out and look for Mr. Right.
CommandLine · 56-60, M
If you think he's done get out on your terms.
No point staying together if you really are not getting on.
JPWhoo · 36-40, M
To have a relationship you have to feel like you can talk to each other. Let it go and accept that he’s done.
Wiseacre · F
I’d probably accept he’s done with me..ur description doesn’t sound worth fighting for.
Thank your lucky stars you found this out before he knocked you up and then left you. This is the biggest blessing you may ever have in your life. Finding out he's a dead end BEFORE it's too late.
@anythingoes477 ...they have a child together.
@SomeMichGuy BUMMER
SW-User
Don't stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy and cry daily. It sounds like he is thru but wants you to continue to tepair it. Once it gets to this point it cant be fixed unless both of you work towards it. It's time for you to make a decision and walk away.
SusanInFlorida · 31-35, F
reading is a great way to avoid getting drawn into an argument, or launching one off insults
justanothername · 51-55, M
Instead of being clingy… move on. Plenty more fish in the sea.
@justanothername They have a child together...
Do you have an update? We are nearly another 4 weeks along...
Montanaman · M
Baby? Do you have a child together?
@Montanaman
when at any time I have by myself or with our baby I just can't stop crying.
(Emphasis added.)
WhateverWorks · 36-40
What have you been fighting about?
England66 · 61-69, M
Time to say goodbye
caccoon · 36-40
Do you have family and friends that can support you? Sounds like it's time to leave him. I know it's easy for us to say. But it sounds like it needs to happen. You deserve to be happy

I'm sorry you have a child together :(
tenente · 100+, M
kick his ass to the curb and move on. remember: you have the right to live an exciting and productive life and you don't need to meet someone elses 'standards'. go and have fun adventures with people who want to be with you and who want to rise up and meet you at your level. good luck

 
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