Can't help but feel jealous

I understand your feelings and don't judge you as unreasonable as your feelings are very human, but I would take a breath and let it go. It's not a reflection on you any more than it would be if she grieved for a much-loved child who died.

I'd favor a relationship with a happy widow who had a good husband over one with a divorced woman who was permanently bitter at here ex and who brought her fears and suspicions into our relationship.

If she loves you deeply and always will that is pretty sensational -- and all too rare.

I have a friend that lost her husband a little over a year ago, and is in a new relationship. She’s always posting stuff about her deceased husband on Facebook, and her new boyfriend always likes the posts.

The thing is, every relationship is different, so recognize that this isn’t a competition. She loves you, and that’s a totally different thing than what she had with her late husband. Celebrate what you two have now, and try not to let the past get under your skin.

A wound from losing someone like that never really goes away. It will always be part of her. Your feelings are as important as hers. Just think about the real reasons of why you're feeling jealous. Think about how you would feel if you lost someone. Think about what you would want from a partner if you were in her situation.

Then you can feel grateful and good of yourself, for finding someone who loves you, someone who really cares for others. And if you need to make a little space for yourself on this day and let your woman do her own grieving, that's okay.

Widows do this.Just rest assured that this is a testament to her loving heart,and besides (not trying to be cold here)she's yours now.It's not like some crazy ex is going to bust into your house and blow your head off with a shotgun.I'm sure she will/or has done the same thing around the holidays.It's her way of coping.Two of my brothers are married to widows,so this isn't some random barroom opinion here.Please don't take it too hard.Let her do her thing.

Yes, the man is dead.
She loved him and always will,doesn't mean she doesn't or can't love you as well.

This was a post I created here to say goodbye to my ex that I loved dearly. It’s not something he could read because it was years ago but I didn’t have proper closure at the time. He will always have a special place in my past and my heart but this was part of me, moving on. I have a girlfriend now that I’ve been with for just three months and I’ve fallen faster and harder than I ever knew possible and love her more than I understood you even could love a person. I still have a love for J. I’m not at all in love with him and no longer want him back at all like that as well my love that I have for him as a person in no way removes a single bit of love I have for her. She’s my absolute world and I would crumble without her. I hope my explanation of me helps you understand her a little.

https://similarworlds.com/32-Personal-Thoughts-Feelings/1845000-A-letter-to-my-J-My-sweetest-love-I-never-truly

This in no way lessens her love for you. Think of it like this, he set the bar very high and after his passing, she found you. That really says something. Just keep supporting her and letting her know you love her enough to express her past of love and grief in the security that you are her love now. Be well. Light and love. 🦋

I knew a woman like that. It has nothing to do with you. Try not to feel annoyed by it. It’s just her grief process.