Can't help but feel jealous

My wife and I separated back in April 2018. I met someone incredible just months later. She is older than me by 14 years and is a widow. Her husband died in November 2016.
I know she loves me deeply and always will but sometimes it's a hard on days like today when it would have been his birthday and she is hearting all the posts on Facebook about how he was the loveliest man ever and hearting all the photos people have put up of him. Am I being unreasonable? It's just so hard

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PowerofStories · 61-69, M

I understand your feelings and don't judge you as unreasonable as your feelings are very human, but I would take a breath and let it go. It's not a reflection on you any more than it would be if she grieved for a much-loved child who died.

I'd favor a relationship with a happy widow who had a good husband over one with a divorced woman who was permanently bitter at here ex and who brought her fears and suspicions into our relationship.

If she loves you deeply and always will that is pretty sensational -- and all too rare.

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

@PowerofStories This is wisdom for sure!