Can't help but feel jealous

My wife and I separated back in April 2018. I met someone incredible just months later. She is older than me by 14 years and is a widow. Her husband died in November 2016.
I know she loves me deeply and always will but sometimes it's a hard on days like today when it would have been his birthday and she is hearting all the posts on Facebook about how he was the loveliest man ever and hearting all the photos people have put up of him. Am I being unreasonable? It's just so hard

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lovelywarpedlemon

A wound from losing someone like that never really goes away. It will always be part of her. Your feelings are as important as hers. Just think about the real reasons of why you're feeling jealous. Think about how you would feel if you lost someone. Think about what you would want from a partner if you were in her situation.

Then you can feel grateful and good of yourself, for finding someone who loves you, someone who really cares for others. And if you need to make a little space for yourself on this day and let your woman do her own grieving, that's okay.