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reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
everyone is sometimes very nice, even Ted Bundy or Hitler were nice sometimes, and sometimes someone falls in love with that nice side hoping that with lots of love their good side will win and take over and the bad side will dissapear. In reality, we all have good aspects and bad aspects and they are all part of us. My rule about this is dont base a decision to be with someone or not on how good their good side is, everyone's good side is good, but rather on how bad their bad side is.
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@reflectingmonkey I appreciate that but I also want to stress. that you might not see the signs of that 'bad side' until a few years later, when, in their mind, 'a certain criteria is met'
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
@atlantic59 yes, i should have said "decision to stay" rather than "be" but the question is about marrying someone bad which implies usually that they know each other enough but i guess we should always be ready to reevaluate the pertinence of a relationship if new information pops up.
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@reflectingmonkey Yes, an ongoing vigilance. Unless we are stabbed in our sleep.