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Is it normal for her to want to talk to me constantly?

I love my fiancée very much, but she wants to talk to me literally 24/7. She texts me all day and gets upset when I don’t reply quickly and she calls me maybe six times per day. Every time she wants to stay on the phone even when we don’t have anything to talk about and it’s silent and then when so say “okay well i’ll talk to you later” she gets defensive. It wasn’t always like this and I am losing it. I love her but I need my alone time to be my time. I’ve told her this and it clicks for a few days but then it always ends up back here. I’m tired.
Peapod · 61-69, F
My brother was once married to a woman that literally did this, 24/7. She was a real sweetheart, but it was painful to sit in a room with her more than 20 minutes because of how incessant her talking was. You could never watch TV or read quietly with her around.

I think it's a type of anxiety imho. Anyone I ever knew that did this were extremely anxious beings. Perhaps talking is a release without them even knowing it.

If she is the one you want to spend your life with, you need to know she doesn't do this on purpose, but won't get better with age. I think you need to have a very honest conversation with her and encourage her to seek treatment for the anxiety she likely has.

Good luck.
SW-User
Alarm bells should be ringing and red flags waving, if it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't and won't be
She sounds rather “clingy”. That’s generally not something that improves. 😒
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Lex22 · 26-30, M
@missbeez ugh...
eMortal · M
Lol she still infatuated with you. She doesn't do it on purpose. You showed her love, that thing acts like narcotics. When she's away from you, she gets withdrawal symptoms. Exactly like a cocaine addict. She needs a fix, quick and that is you!!
Just be patient. Don't answer or reply all the time. It will seriously hurt her in the beginning. She'll argue. Just keep apologizing. Once that oxytocin is lowered in her brain, she'll come around.
Quarantine prob has her missing you alot but its not healthy
Lex22 · 26-30, M
@updown2020 See if what’s there? We have been together for like three years total but living together less than one
updown2020 · 61-69, M
@Lex22 Well see if anyone left any comments about her being clingy. Well has she been like this since the beginning? If so why did you let her move in? Well maybe it was a good thing you let her move in that way you found out early how she is.
Lex22 · 26-30, M
@updown2020 She doesn’t post or have any personal conversations on social media. She wasn’t like this it’s just since we have lived together.
SW-User
Do you want to get married?
SW-User
What type of work does she do?@Lex22

If you don’t mind the question
Lex22 · 26-30, M
@SW-User She’s working in a store right now while she’s in school.
SW-User
@Lex22
I used to. I’m not sure anymore because I feel like i’m being suffocated.

If you've spoken to her about it and she hasn't adjusted her actions, it's not going to get any better unless she gets therapy/help for it. She's showing an insecurity that shouldn't exist between 2 people living together who are planning on getting married and are leading busy lives. Warning bells should be going off in your head brother. If you don't like her actions now, how do you think you'll like them after you've been married for a few years?
tallpowerhouseblonde · 36-40, F
Sit her down and explain it to her.I was going to say put duct tape over her mouth but that is probably a step too far.
My experience watching my kids go through the same is that it is INSECURITY that drives such behavior...
SW-User
Damn she’s clingy as hell
@SW-User Exactly my take.
Harriet03 · 41-45, F
She sounds very "needy" or very insecure! 🤷‍♀️
SW-User
Yikes ..she sounds super clingy ..not good
bearinthehalfwayhouse · 26-30, M
Reminds me of my ex.. It's not necessarily a bad thing but.. God, I wanted to put my fist through her mouth hole sometimes.. ┬┴┬┴┤¬ᴥ¬ʔ HAVING SAID THAT!! BLANKING HER ASS SEEMED TO BE THE ONLY THING THAT WORKED FOR ME!! Some dawgs just don't listen yo..
Lex22 · 26-30, M
@bearinthehalfwayhouse You need Jesus
bearinthehalfwayhouse · 26-30, M
@Lex22 Ey dawg I'ma just saying how it be yo. Cats be WILDIN' and I ain't got no time for games!!
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
Yeah thats unhealthy.
maturedragon · 26-30, M
she's probably going a bit crazy over quarantine, hopefully it will be better once it's over
maturedragon · 26-30, M
looking at the responses looks like she's super possessive.... and a tad controlling....
Lex22 · 26-30, M
@maturedragon ugh. yeah
Nanori · F
Probably something is making her feel insecure
Lex22 · 26-30, M
@Nanori She is. I ask why and she says it just happens sometimes for no reason. That doesn’t help me much.
Nanori · F
@Lex22 you gotta have a deep convo with her, let her feel comfortable enough so she can figure it out and tell you
Sounds a wee bit insecure.
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Lex22 · 26-30, M
@missbeez what?

 
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