Is it normal for her to want to talk to me constantly?

I love my fiancée very much, but she wants to talk to me literally 24/7. She texts me all day and gets upset when I don’t reply quickly and she calls me maybe six times per day. Every time she wants to stay on the phone even when we don’t have anything to talk about and it’s silent and then when so say “okay well i’ll talk to you later” she gets defensive. It wasn’t always like this and I am losing it. I love her but I need my alone time to be my time. I’ve told her this and it clicks for a few days but then it always ends up back here. I’m tired.

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Peapod · 61-69, F

My brother was once married to a woman that literally did this, 24/7. She was a real sweetheart, but it was painful to sit in a room with her more than 20 minutes because of how incessant her talking was. You could never watch TV or read quietly with her around.

I think it's a type of anxiety imho. Anyone I ever knew that did this were extremely anxious beings. Perhaps talking is a release without them even knowing it.

If she is the one you want to spend your life with, you need to know she doesn't do this on purpose, but won't get better with age. I think you need to have a very honest conversation with her and encourage her to seek treatment for the anxiety she likely has.

Good luck.