Why do I not stand a chance against other guys?

It seems like no matter how good of a personality I have and how much of a gentleman I am other men seem to get the woman I am interested in. And don’t tell me I have no game because that crap is for millennials!

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Budwick · 70-79, M

Don't panic Vulcan.
Just be you.
Do stuff you like to do.
Go places you enjoy.
Talk to and get to know the people that are doing and enjoying the things you are doing and enjoying.
Don't focus on finding 'the one'.
Focus on being you.
Ensure that what you are enjoying is good, worthy,etc.
I promise, you'll stumble across interesting and fun people along the way.
Who knows? Maybe, someone will appreciate you for who you are!
THAT'S the one you are interested in anyway.

Even if you never find her, you will have had a fun and prosperous adventure and met some nice people on the way!

canusernamebemyusername · M

I don't even know what game means. How extensive is you search? Like I have never found anyone local. I have always found the best matches from people far away. Even other countries.

VulcanGalaxy · 26-30, M

@canusernamebemyusername I mean I’ve found good matches close to me, but the problem is no matter what I have to offer to women they end going for the other guy that is probably a douche.

4meAndyou · F

You are probably a bit too laid back and polite. Brief smouldering looks and a tiny bit of bad boy go a long way.

VulcanGalaxy · 26-30, M

@4meAndyou oh so act like a douche then because that’s what the bad boy persona is pretty much

4meAndyou · F

@VulcanGalaxy I don't like douchey guys...not a bit. But if you have an air of mystery...perhaps a promise of excitement...it makes a difference.

VulcanGalaxy · 26-30, M

@4meAndyou see millennials just had to go and change the whole concept of dating to make it difficult for guys like me that have an older way of processing things

ajent86 · 56-60, M

It’s early.

VulcanGalaxy · 26-30, M

@ajent86 what do you mean?

ajent86 · 56-60, M

A couple of things. 1, women your age who are for whatever reason attracted to bad asses often outgrow that. (Women reading this, sorry for stereotyping, but there’s a reason so many leading ladies in Hollywood go for the swashbuckler.)
2, you have encountered the tiniest fraction of the overall number of women you will know moving forward. If you’re in your early 20s you’re about to meet a hundred women, some of whom have already have their fill with (not my word, but) douches.
3, if you’re in your early 20s it’s unlikely that you yourself have peaked. Hit your stride being yourself, don’t be a douche, manage your oral hygiene, and things will happen. @VulcanGalaxy

VulcanGalaxy · 26-30, M

@ajent86 good point

Rickg · 31-35, M

It could be you’re Vulcan heritage?

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