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I don't find my boyfriend physically attractive. But I do love him. Is it wrong if I tell him that? (If he asks)

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I would think it would hurt him, and is it really necessary to hurt him?
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UpForItNow · 22-25, F
Yes, it would unnecessarily hurt his feelings. I only want my wife for sex, but I'd never tell her that.
patkaren1717 · 36-40, M
Lie like all people do, why hurt his feelings.
OwnerOfMany · 90-99, M
If he asks, say something like, "Well, I have seen better looking men just like you have seen better looking women. I do find you very attractive." Just don't say PHYSICALLY attractive. After all, if you didn't find something attractive you wouldn't be with him.
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What if someday your boyfriend said this to you? How would you feel?
indyjoe · 56-60, M
@basicgirl12 If you love him then you can overcome and deal with not finding him physically attractive (as you already know looks aren't everything). Are you having sexual relations with him? If you are then it is already not an issue to you. If he asks, just say that you love him just the way he is and for who he is (then continue to show/prove it). I have found and learned that physical flaws and imperfections actually seem to improve (or just don't matter).
basicgirl12 · 22-25, F
If he asks me @indyjoe whether I find him attractive I can't just say that I love him for who he is because he's very clever and will see I'm evading the question.
indyjoe · 56-60, M
@basicgirl12 I also said you can tell him you love him just the way he is...and than I said you can show him and prove it. If he still fishes for a direct answer then you can tell him the truth but assure him it makes no difference to you.
lost213 · 46-50, M
I think it would definitely be a big confidence killer..perhaps You should think long and hard about it before you decide to tell him.
aprilmay · 22-25, F
I don't think love has to do with what someone looks like
yeronlyman · 51-55, M
FeetAreFantastic · 41-45, M
Good question, I am honestly not sure what to answer. Telling him will hurt his feelings which isn't good. But lying also isn't good.

 
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