i think in itself its probably possible to have more than one lover and love both but when it is done by lying and hiding then it shows a low ability to really love at a deep level where it would be impossible to lie to someone you truly love. its the lying that shows a lack of love.

Yeah some people claim sex addiction issues. I think some are lying but I think some are telling the truth TBH. We all have problems and we judge other people's issues that we don't understand. I'm not okay with cheating but I've learned it not as black and white as people like to exclaim so loudly without all the pieces to the puzzle

I say it's possible because humans are flawed, they aren't as perfect as their ideals and they are not as great as the greatness of love. They can ignore it but it s there. They have to grow to contain all of it and live up to the responsibility.

It's there, just not in the amount needed to feel literally unable to cheat, or even empathetic enough to truly relate to the consequences.

And does that worth dedicating your life to? Not to me. I think not being great enough to contain love is why we feel incomplete and always seek to complete us in other people. Cheating is just one form of that.

No that's not love

i don't think it's so easy to know, except on maybe on a case by case basis. i know of a couple that was married for 30 odd years and it was found the husband was involved in several affairs over that time. when the wife found out, they divorced and stayed divorced for five years. then they got back together, both of them having serious medical issues by that time, a history that produced eight children and several grandchildren. they seem very happy now, but i don't think their lives are as influenced by sex anymore now that they're older.

Some people cheat because apparently according to the post i asked yesterday, was the thrill, their insecurities, power umm coz they're stupid.
Now i didnt hear one person say they cheat because they love a person.
I was told when you love you don't cheat at all.
So knowing I've been in love myself it wasn't on my radar but i do know I've entertained dating someone else when we were on a break to show tgos person they are not my only option.

People seem to have different ideas of how love works. My first instinct is to say no, you don't love someone if you cheat on them. Then again, I've been cheated on by someone who went above and beyond showing love in [i]different[/i] ways. So, it's hard to say.

Anyone who would say that you can really needs to think about it for a minute...if you really loved your spouse you wouldn't cheat on them because you wouldn't want to hurt them in any way.

For women, no. For men, yes.

We all know how men and women approach sex in a [b][u]vastly[/u][/b] different way, yes?

Because sex [i]is[/i] love, to women. Whereas, sex has value simply for sex, for men.

People do cheat on their loved ones but not for long. At an early of infidelity, they can't go on and end it if they actually love their spouses.

Yes absolutely. Love is not perfect and neither are people.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201806/4-reasons-why-infidelity-happens-even-in-happy

No.

Love is a stupid term.

Did the person maintain the trust and bond a marriage requires... no.

Of course...It's called threesome

That would be SELF love

I'd say no

Well, some people have their own definitions of love, and can compartmentalize between emotional connections and sexual dalliances. I never could, but I'm told my attitude is less common.